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Attention Barbara Kay of Canada: You Are Dangerous…I Hope You’ve Opened Your Eyes in the Past Year

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Hey Barbara Kay, I sincerely hope you’ve opened your eyes about violence against women and children in the past year.    (Are you really Mike Murphy in drag?)   Your actions of “coming to the rescue of all men with allegations against them” is dangerous, and I wonder how you’d react if you were raped going out to your car one night.  Throw in a severe beating, and let him urinate all over you after he is done with raping you (this happened to my cousin), and let’s see how you feel.  And father’s rights loser Paul Clements can tell you that you lied about being raped.

Try telling this to Meara McIntosh of Alberta.  She tried telling the authorities and the family court of the violent nature of her ex, Rich Saunders of Drumheller, AB.  Nobody believed her because of father’s rights pundits like you, spewing your drivel about false allegations from women.  Rich took little dear 3 year old Colton for a weekend visit last year after Meara was court ordered to turn the child over for the visit.  Rich killed little Colton and himself that weekend.  Now, with Colton buried  in his beloved Halloween costume, Meara couldn’t even afford to get a headstone for his grave (and he still needs one).  Maybe instead we can make November a fundraising month for buying headstones for all the victims of domestic violence.  Here are a few Canadians we can start with:

Theresa Thomas, a 58 year old from Vancouver, was killed by her husband on August 4, 2009.
Joan Paget, from Alberta, along with her daughter, Jolene, and her nine year old granddaughter, Misty, were killed by Joan’s husband on July 26, 2009.
Kristel Duval, 25 year old from Montreal, was killed by her husband on July 6, 2009.
Selamawit Negasi, 46 year old from Edmonton, a mother of 3 children, was killed by her husband July 5, 2009.
Brenda Blondell, 59 year old from British Columbia, was killed by her husband on June 22, 2009.
Maria Nzokilandevi, 53 year old from Ontario, mother of 3 children, was killed by her husband on June 12, 2009.
Michelle Simone, a 45 year old from Ontario, was killed by her husband on June 7, 2009.
Kerry Walters, a 25 year old from Ottawa and her 11 month old baby girl, Starla, were killed by Kerry’s husband on May 16, 2009.
Lorna Kate Redhead of Shamattawa, a 42 year old from Manitoba, was killed by her husband on May 16, 2009.
Gail Saltel, a 47 year old from Alberta and her 17 year old daughter, Erika, were killed by Gail’s husband on May 4, 2009.
Jessica Martel, 26 year old from Edmonton, a mother of 3 children, was killed by her husband on April 29, 2009.
Tubi Kawaja, 35 year old from Calgary, mother of a 3 year old boy, was killed by her husband on April 4, 2009.
Pamela Olara, 32 year old from Toronto, a mother of 4 children, was killed by her husband on April 2, 2009.
Jinane Ghannoum, 38 year old from Montreal, a mother of 3 children, was killed by her husband on March 24, 2009.
Kuldeep Kaur Badyal, 32 year old from Vancouver, a mother of 2 children, was killed by her husband on March 5, 2009.
Sherry Martin, 52 year old from Ontario, was killed by her husband on February 24, 2009.
Deborah Volker, 44 year old from Alberta, a mother of 3 children, was killed by her husband on February 23, 2009.
Shelley Richards, 56 year old from British Colombia was killed by her husband on February 10, 2009.

From a study cited by the National District Attorney’s Association in the United States, which I am sure they are more qualified than you to speak on this matter:

To the contrary, the available research suggests that false allegation rates are not significantly high.  For example, a 1990 study by Thoennes and Tjaden evaluated 9,000 divorces in 12 states7 and found that sexual abuse allegations were made in less than 2 percent of the contested divorces involving child custody.  Within this group, it appears false allegations occurred in approximately 5% to 8% of cases.8 This study is one of the most comprehensive and least subject to bias and sampling problems, since its sample is so large and representative of the population of those divorcing with custody and visitation disputes.9

7 Thoennes & Tjaden, The Extent, Nature and Validity of Sexual Abuse Allegation in Custody/Visitation Disputes, Child Abuse and Neglect 1990, 14:151-163.
8 Id.
9 Kathleen Coulborn Faller, David L. Corwin & Erna Olafson, Literature Review: Research on False Allegations of Sexual Abuse in Divorce, APSAC Advisor 1993, 6(3), page 9.

Not all women are truthful, as shown in the study above, but a vast majority are.  Not all guys are bad…there are many good fathers out there.  But to blanket-protect many abusers that are dangerous to the lives of women and children is just WRONG!  Shame on you, Barbara Kay!

For what it is worth (and it isn’t that much), here is her horrifying opinion last year from the National Post:

Barbara Kay, October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month; How about making November false allegations awareness month

Posted: October 06, 2008, 9:11 PM by Jonathan Kay

Barbara Kay

Domestic Violence Awareness Month was first observed in October, 1987 and is celebrated on the first Monday in October. That’s today, October 6. Fittingly enough, this morning’s Globe and Mail carries an editorial on the sometimes tragic effects when innocent men are charged with false allegations of sexual abuse.

The editorial recounts the story of a young father who was savagely beaten to death with a baseball bat by a young man who took the word of two girls, aged 13 and 15, when they claimed the victim had “touched them inappropriately.” The girls had lied and clearly incited their male “protector” to violence, but they were not charged with any crime. Nor was an 18-year old woman who accompanied the murderer and presumably, at the very least, approved of his actions. Perhaps she even egged him on. She was only charged with “breaking and entering.” The editorial indignantly concludes that “the authorities need to punish” those whose false accusation are at the root of such incidents.

The Globe editorialists’ indignation suggests a certain naiveté about the prevalence of this practice. They would profit from spending a few days in family court, where, in the interest of tipping custody battles in their own interest, women’s false allegations of domestic violence and sexual abuse of children against their former partners are so rife – and virtually never punished – that it is apparently the best-kept secret crime in the western world. Oh, perhaps these men are not beaten up with baseball bats, but they do lose their homes, their children, often their jobs and friends, spend time in jail, are rarely given the benefit of the doubt – and many of them kill themselves from despair.

In 2000, it was reported that the FBI’s DNA testing over a three year period had exonerated more than 30% of their 4,000-plus sexual assault suspects. Going further back, in the FBI’s Behavioural Science Unit’s 1983 study of False Allegations, a total of 220 out of 556 rape investigations – 40% – turned out to be false. Over a quarter turned out to be actual hoaxes (remember the infamous Tawana Brawley, who at 15 falsely accused a number of white men of a marathon three-day gang rape, some of them police officers? At least she got successfully sued for defamation, but that was small potatoes for the havoc she wreaked in those men’s lives). About 4,000 allegations of rape a year are levelled in Manhattan. About half never happened. Police officials in New Zealand state that 64% of rape reports are false.

False reports of child abuse are even more prevalent. A 1999 National Post article reported on a study by two law professors from Queen’s University: “The academics looked at 196 abuse allegations involving separated parents. Of these, 46 cases resulted in judgments that abuse did occur. Of the 150 unproven cases, the trial judges believed the allegations were intentionally false (either a parent or child made them up) 45 times. Thus it appears there are as many cases of false accusations of child abuse as there are provable, true incidents.

After lifting the veil on the prevalence of false claims, the two law professors then detail[ed] the costs – emotional, financial and legal – of such accusations. Since mothers make the preponderance of abuse claims – true and false – it is fathers who bear the bulk of this burden. Further, it is important to remember that even if the charges are found to be baseless in criminal court, they can subsequently re-appear in family court. This means the father may never escape the stigma of being falsely accused of child abuse. And just one instance of a mother being charged with making false accusations was reported in the study, even though the data suggests one quarter of child abuse charges are likely to be deliberately invented.”

All allegations of sexual abuse or domestic violence should be routed immediately to criminal court and the burden placed on the accuser to prove (usually) her case. Real punishment should follow on false accusations of abuse of any kind. When women get away scot free with ruining men’s lives – or provoking tragedies like those detailed in this editorial – it is inevitable that the message trickles down to society at large that false allegations against men by women and girls are tolerated and even triviliazed. I don’t think those girls thought they were doing anything “wrong,” certainly not committing a crime. I  daresay they would not have been so insouciant about accusing the unfortunate young man if they were aware that false allegations result in serious consequences.

I would love to see the Globe and Mail follow up their editorial with an in-depth story on the state of false allegations in Canada today. As a kind of ironic “homage” to domestic violence month.