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Battered Moms Lose Children to Abusers

About BMLCTA-Maternal Deprivation Abuse—batteredmomslosecustody

This site is for Mother’s who are re-victimized in Family Court by unethical Judges, Lawyers, GALs, Psychologists, Parenting Coordinators, Etc. who fail to protect children and often even punish the mother for protecting their children who complain of abuse.

Women who were involved with wealthy abusers are frequently subjected to Legal Abuse when attempting to leave an abuser. Children are used as pawns and are being subjected to atrocious treatment by professionals who profiteer off of these court cases.

Abusers are getting unsupervised visitation, joint, and sometimes sole custody of children despite documented histories of abuse to the mother or child or both.

Interviews from the Battered Mother’s Custody Conference

Family Court Crisis – Our Children At Risk

To view the ultimate documentary on this Family Court Custody and Visitation Scandal:
Breaking the Silence- Children’s Stories <-Click this Link!

If you are naive and uniformed you may think that if you go to court and tell the truth everything will be ok. Think again…When women and/or children expose family abuses, especially sexual abuse, they are demonized and vilified as liars. Even when children expose abuse by strangers, they are accused of lying by horrifically unethical attorneys and their colluding psychological so-called experts. If you wonder how this can go on, check out how many defense attorneys are also legislators. They make their living by defending criminals. These unethical psychologists who are the most important part of the defense against abuse accusations also have a hugely powerful lobby and have virtual immunity in child custody cases.

Here is a video of one of the most despicable criminal defense attorneys who is also a federal legislator. Obviously this guy thinks than it is much more important for adult sex offenders to have rights that it is to protect innocent children. It is this mentality that is pervasive in family court that protective parents face when defending against allegations of parental alienation. The abuse that has been suffered by parent and child are discounted and the parental rights of the abusers seem to be the only thing that matters.

Check out this legislator in action regarding Jessica’s law requiring minimum sentencing for sex offenders.

“rip apart” 6-year-old victims on the witness stand and “make sure the rest of their life is ruined.”

In a fiery soliloquy on the House floor, Fagan said he’d grill victims so that, “when they’re 8 years old they throw up; when they’re 12 years old, they won’t sleep; when they’re 19 years old, they’ll have nightmares and they’ll never have a relationship with anybody.”

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Victims from all over the world need to get the message out about the network of people who “excuse abuse” and falsely accuse protective parents of hypothetical psychological theories in order to facilitate a change of custody to the abusive parent or grant visitation when it is not in the child’s best interest. Please send your story of defending your child from an abuser to ParentalAlienationFraud@gmail.com.

Spread the word using Rating sites to anonymously give information on the Judges, Mental Health Professionals, and Lawyer/GAL/Mediators, etc. and anyone else involved in the case.  Distinction in Family Courts conducts studies, has a questionnaire, and is involved in class action to clean up the family court system.

Rate Judges:
Courthouse Forum
Jail 4 Judges
Jail 4 Judges Florida

Rate the Courts

Robe Probe
The Robing Room

Rate Mental Health Professionals:
Rate MDs  – Good site to post reviews
PsychReview - UK
Therapist Ratings

Rate Lawyers/GALs/Mediators, etc.

Lawyer Ratings – Where You Are The Judge - Good site to post reviews
AVVO - Does not seem to be posting these reviews. hmmmm…. UPDATE: Has not ever posted a real review!

Not every post on this blog specifically relates to a battered mother, but they generally relate to court injustice, the fraud of psychological testimony, and maltreatment of women and/or children, especially Maternal Deprivation Abuse (MDA).

Maternal Deprivation Research

There have been numerous studies regarding Maternal Deprivation, with a large source of information coming from Bowlby, based on Spitz and Goldfarb, and also from unethical animal experimentation. Overwhelmingly, research shows that severing this natural bond between a mother and child causes severe emotional and behavioral problems, such as depression and psychosis. The phrase maternal deprivation is the terminology used in the early work of psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, John Bowlby on the effects of separating infants and young children from their mother. Some of the research was previously used to discourage mothers from working or using childcare, but it seems important to revive these studies as children are being deprived of their mothers intentionally by abusive men who claim to be “parentally alienated” in an ongoing scandal that rivals that of the Catholic Priest sexual abuse cover up.  

Maternal Deprivation Abuse (MDA), has been identified as occurring with great frequency in legal proceedings, with specific unethical lawyers, psychologists, and judges perpetrating the the same scam on mother after mother with similar horrific results for the children. There has been death by suicide, suicide attempts, depression, academic distress, retaliation by a child against a PAS claiming father, and untold misery for the victimized children and mothers.

Based on Bolwby’s theories, Maternally Deprivation affects children as follows:

• Complete or almost complete deprivation could “entirely cripple the capacity to make relationships.”
• Partial deprivation could result in acute anxiety, depression, neediness and powerful emotions which the child could not regulate.
• The end product of such psychic disturbance could be neurosis and instability of character.(Bowlby J. (1951) pps. 11–12)

“Mother love in infancy and childhood is as important for mental health as are vitamins and proteins for physical health.” (Bowlby, 1953.)  Child psychoanalyst John Bowlby (1907–1990).

Maternal Deprivation Abuse

Maternal Deprivation, or Motherlessness, is occurring with alarming frequency due to the unethical treatment of women and children in family court. Maternal Deprivation is inflicting abuse by severing the mother-child bond. It is a form of abuse that men inflict on both the mother and children, especially men who claim they are “parentally alienated” from their children when there are complaints of abusive treatment by the father.

Maternal Deprivation occurs when men seek to keep their children from being raised by their mothers who are the children’s natural caretakers. Some men murder the mothers of their own children. Others seek to sever the maternal bonds by making false allegations of fictitious psychological syndromes in a deliberate effort to change custody and/or keep the child from having contact with their mother when there are legal proceedings. A twisted form of Maternal Deprivation is to kill the children, so that the mother will be left to suffer. Sometimes there are family annihilationmurders where the father kills the children and himself (or dies by cop), but the mother is not killed because she has received protective orders and her children have not as in the case of Jessica Gonzales.  

In seeking to define this form of abuse certain common elements are found in the Maternal Deprivation scenario as follows:

• History of domestic abuse that could be physical, psychological, sexual, and/or social abuse occurring on or off again, occasionally, or chronically which could be mild, moderate, or severe, including homicidal and/or suicidal threats.
• Legal proceedings relating to abuse
• Hiring of “Fathers Rights” attorney
• Use of “Hired Gun” mental health professionals to make accusations of psychological disorder against the mother and children in deliberate effort to excuse abuse and change custody or grant visitation that is contrary to safety concerns. Another name for these unethical professionals are “Whores of the Courts“ as they are called by Margaret Hagen PhD in the book by the same title exposing the fraud of psychological testimony.
• Raising claims of “psychological disorders” against the mother such as “Parental Alienation Syndrome” (PAS), Munchausen by Proxy Syndrome, Malicious Mother Syndrome, Lying Litigant Syndrome, Hostile Aggressive Parenting or any other mother-blaming psychological disorder that can be used by the unethical professional to re-victimize the victims.
• Infliction of “Legal Abuse” by continually and excessively filing motions so that the mother continually has to defend herself and her child(ren) causing financial and emotional devastation.
• Can occur in response to child support legal proceedings as retaliation.

The intent of “Maternal Deprivation” is to punish the mother and the child for revealing the abuse and to falsely claim that they are not abusive. This very commonly occurs as there are more and more “abuse-excuse” parental alienation accusing professionals who use this scientifically invalid theory over and over to achieve specific goals of the person paying them. Maternal Deprivation can also occur in response to child support legal proceedings. When occurring in this manner, Maternal Deprivation is a response to the financial demands as retaliation. Suddenly the father who had little prior involvement wants to take the kids half the time to avoid child support obligations, etc. When the men are really abusive, they ask for sole custody and demand the mother of the child pay them.

Although some people call this “Maternal Alienation”, a distinction needs to be made as the pro-pedophilia “Parental Alienation Syndrome” and the use of the word “Alienation” are most often used AGAINST battered women and abused children. There needs to be a distinction between the phony psychological syndrome and the intentional infliction of abuse on a mother and child by intentionally severing their natural bond. This distinction can best be made by NOT using the label of “Alienation” which will always be associated with the pro-pedophilia monster Doctor Richard Gardner.

Some of the characteristics of the especially heinous abusers who inflict Maternal Deprivation include but are not limited to the following:

• Angry

• Abusive

• Violent

• Coercive

• Controlling

• Threatening

• Intimidating

• Demanding

• Domineering

• Harassing

• Stalking

• Tyrannical

• Oppressive

• Forceful

• Manipulative

• Deceptive

• Unethical

• Un-empathetic (Lacks Empathy)

• Entitled

• Immature

• Self-centered

• Neglectful

• Guilt inducing

• Pushy

• Intentionally tries to humiliate mother and/or child
• Harsh, rigid and punitive parenting style
• Outrage at child’s challenge of authority
• May use force to reassert parental position
• Dismissive of child’s feelings and negative attitudes
• Vents rage, blames mother for “brainwashing” child and takes no responsibility
• Challenges child’s beliefs and/or attitudes and tries to convince them otherwise
• Inept and unempathic pursuit of child, pushes calls and letters, unannounced or embarrassing visits

There is a distinct overlap of the intimate terrorist type domestic violence abuser with the Maternal Deprivation abusers as follows:

• Coercion and threats
• Intimidation
• Emotional abuse
• Isolation
• Minimizing, denying and blaming (Hallmarks of PAS)
• Using children
• Economic abuse
• Male privilege

The people who most often engage in Maternal Deprivation Abuse are most often: 

• Abusive men

• Vindictive second wives who don’t want to deal with the real mother of the children

• Paternal grandparents who raised dysfunctional children (abusers)

The effects of Maternal Deprivation often cause the children to become psychotic, depressed, and sometimes suicidal or to have suicidal ideations. Another terrible reaction is when the child retaliates against the parent who accuses Parental Alienation Syndrome as in a Texas case where the child killed his father. Other times when the Maternal Deprivation abuser completely takes over the will of the child by using brainwashing techniques similar to those used in prison camps where deprivation and isolation are used to force ideological changes in captives, these children often have a sort of trauma-bonding with the abuser and model their behavior. Sometimes these children will also abuse the mother in the same manner as the father. Another generation is created to carry on the abuse, and will likely do the same to their own spouse and children.

Check out this video on unethical Maternal Deprivation

And more from Bowlby’s Studies:

http://www.pep-web.org/document.php?id=APA.011.0500A

(1963). Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, 11:500-541

Pathological Mourning and Childhood Mourning

John Bowlby, M.D.

THIS IS the fifth in a series of papers in which I am exploring the theoretical implications of the behavior to be observed when young children are removed from the mother figures to whom they are attached and are placed with strangers. The thesis I am advancing is twofold: “first, that once the child has formed a tie to a mother-figure, which has ordinarily occurred by the middle of the first year, its rupture leads to separation anxiety and grief and sets in train processes of mourning; secondly, that in the early years of life these mourning processes not infrequently take a course unfavourable to future personality development and thereby predispose to psychiatric illness.” Since in earlier papers I have discussed the theory of separation anxiety and mourning, it is to the second part of the thesis that this and later papers are directed.

In the preceding paper “Processes of Mourning” (5) reasons were given for dividing healthy mourning, whether it occurs in human infants

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