Sean Goldman’s Grandma Speaks Out

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Well, I see the “abducted” crowd is still screaming it about.  Here is what Sean’s grandmother has to say now that Sean has left…from Brazzil Magazine:

Grandmother Blasts Brazil for Selling Out Sean Goldman and Vows to Visit Him Soon

Written by José Wilson Miranda   

Saturday, 26 December 2009

Silvana Bianchi, the grandmother of Sean Goldman, the 9-year-old American boy who was taken to Brazil by his mother when he was 4 and who was returned to the United States, this Christmas Eve, met the press in Rio, on Christmas day, to talk about the departure of her grandson.

Bianchi, who had sent an open letter to Brazilian president Luiz Inácio Lula da Silva asking that Sean be heard by the courts so that he could tell the judge if he wished to stay in Brazil or live with his father in the US, once again criticized the decision of the Supreme Court that ordered the immediate handover of the boy to his American father.

“It was one of the saddest things in my life, because to me Sean was a younger son,” the grandmother stated. “I had already lost my daughter, I kept Sean, my son Luca and the little girl. But to give up a child is a very painful thing.”

She recalled how painful it was to have to say goodbye to the boy at Rio’s US Consulate:

“I gave Sean a kiss and said, ‘Sean, my heart and yours are going to be together forever, nobody can separate us.’ What’s inside my heart and what’s inside Sean’s heart no one will separate, no one will censor, no one will pull out as they did. After that we parted and so far I haven’t had news of him.”

She cried a lot and seemed outraged. “What they’ve done to my grandson is such a coward act, that sentence by Minister Gilmar Mendes is inhumane. He separated two siblings. I’m with a baby girl of 1 year and 5 months in my house who is asking me all the time where is her brother. To exchange my grandson for an economic agreement between two countries is an act with a child that has no adjective to describe it.”

Sean’s uncle, Luca Bianchi, who also participated in the press conference, commented that David Goldman, Sean’s father, showed no interest in seeing the child before the death of Bruna Bianchi, the boy’s mother and his sister, who died while giving birth to daughter Chiara, a little over one year ago.

“The first time he requested to visit Sean was a week after the death of my sister. Before that, I believe that for 4 years and 8 months, he never asked to visit the son,” said Luca, who also told reporters how the boy acted upon learning he would have to go back to the US.

“There are two things he said the day he got the news that stuck in my head. The first was when we said, ‘Look, Sean, we lost, we did everything we could, but now there’s nothing else we can do, you will have to go back to the United States’. He said: ‘But how? But I don’t want. I don’t want.’ We told him, ‘But it’s the law.’ He then said: ‘Damn, I lost my mother and now am I going to lose my whole family?”

The Bianchis say they want to go as soon as they can to the United States, but they want to be sure that they will be allowed to see  Sean.

“We will ask for visitation rights, through the Brazilian embassy in Washington and this visit will happen as soon as possible,” said the grandmother.

Sergio Tostes, the family’s lawyer, showed the press the Christmas card made by Sean and sent to him and his wife.

“I want to show the card he sent us: ‘Sergio and Etilene, thanks for the help and three million things more. I write little because this can’t be explained with words. Merry Christmas, a kiss, Sean. Don’t throw this away. I made it myself,’” read Tostes.

“This was a lovely boy, this boy who they said was not mature enough to express his opinion,” the lawyer added.

In the Attorney General’s Office, no one was found to talk about the Bianchis interview. The Supreme Court and the Planalto Palace, Lula’s office, declined to comment on their statements.

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HIGH SCORE- for Godbey !!

fits EACH of the 9 criteria! Give that man an award for dumb ass of the decade.  Go stalk some else –asshole– there is no treatment for ASSHOLE  Personality’s though (except lead injection.) *dream*

DSM IV definition: Someone who suffers from Narcissistic Personality disorder (NPD) has at least 5 of the following characteristics:

1. has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
2. is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
3. believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
4. requires excessive admiration
5. has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
6. is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
7. lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others
8. is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her
9. shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes

 

Dossier: Mark K Godbey

Mark K Godbey has a long history of frivolous litigation against his ex wife.  Despite numerous restraining orders made against him, he continued to persue her through the courts.   He was sentenced for contempt on two occasions.
Alike most advocates for shared parenting, he publicly claims to promote that children are better off with both parents and privately cheers on cases where the child has been deprived of the mother:

Labels: Fathers Rights, Mark Godbey, Mark K Godbey, Mark Kevin Godbey

http://www.narcissism101.com/Beginning/dsm_iv.html

DSM IV definition: Someone who suffers from Narcissistic Personality disorder (NPD) has at least 5 of the following characteristics:

1. has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
2. is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
3. believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
4. requires excessive admiration
5. has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
6. is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
7. lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others
8. is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her
9. shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes

Associated Features: Depressed Mood Dramatic or Erratic or Antisocial Personality

Differential Diagnosis Some disorders have similar or even the same symptom.
Histrionic Personality Disorder; Antisocial Personality Disorder; Borderline Personality Disorder; Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder; Schizotypal Personality Disorder; Paranoid Personality Disorder; Manic Episodes; Hypomanic Episodes; Personality Change Due to a General Medical Condition; Symptoms that may develop in association with chronic substance use.

Go to Sam Vaknin

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Maybe we could call this the 12 days to truth- no Christmas cookies here- I hurt and I am angry a normal reaction to a very heinous and horrific OUTRAGE!

 

Dear Judge David Debenham Shawnee County Court Whorehouse Merry Christmas - from my dear mother watching you from heaven!  Ohhhhh…. wait I am in contempt for this beautiful tribute video—So be it…

My mother says ‘fuck you” (as do I)- ‘’when they circumcised you they threw away the wrong part”-my daughters Granny that you denied (as the video below shows)

Its not bad enough that you have to screw up your own daughter after the death of your wife ( oh how the court hallways talk)  but you have the ‘lack of balls’  to stop fucking up the lives of OTHER little girls (my daughter) how the mother dead mother of your daughters must be- as she looks down on this x-mas evening upon your new wife and family and her precious daughters you tossed away.

But OHHHHHHHH wait you are only defending the father- who still maintains the coffin.. but wait your a GOOD Judge/god- little man syndrome-

I have noting left but the truth- the same truth that still stands 16 years later! I have nothing better to do with my time than to exercise my 1st amendment right- ( as you know my own mother died this time .. Merry fucking Christmas Judge ‘death’ Debenham. FUCK YOU! and all the other court whores ( each will get their own special post) See M. Jill Dykes- two down….

Oh, dear Judge did you know that the real Claudine Dombrowski is WORLD WIDE???  Her sites her blogs her name- is everyone's- This mom will never go away- and neither will the shit that this court CONTINUES to try to keep Silent

.. WE are the world…

and

… WE are every where

 

for now, this will serve as a Christmas card to all the whores of this Court all who have and are- a part of the Inter-American Commission Human Rights Petition – for ohh gee guess what- HUMAN RIGHTS VIOLTIONS!!!

how proud you must be as you ‘cheer’ each other tonight- while so many suffer from YOUR profit.

keep on violating all Human Rights, Constitutional rights ( as if that ever did exist) Bill of Rights and the list goes on and on…. There is no justice- JUST-US- the  lawyers, Judges and Other court whores- keep playing your silly games… the truth remains simply- the truth.

Google your own name Judge David Debenaham - no need to Google my name with yours- your a star on your own-

and we are only just beginning.

On Jan 8th, 2010 when you sever my rights – recall it must be because I am a threat to my daughter- NOT YOU! and the court whores!

Judge David ‘death’ Debenham- ‘SOLD’ to the highest bidder denies even in death human rights.

 

 

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http://www.viddler.com/explore/AngelFury/videos/2/

Merry Christmas Mom, Merry x-mas my daughter- I miss you both..

I will never give up!!

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Media Bias -- the Sean Goldman Brazil abduction stories

 

 

The New York Times and Rep. Chris Smith say: "The boy was taken to Brazil in 2004 by the woman who was Mr. Goldman's wife at the time..." So much for throwing the parent card. That wasn't "the woman who was Mr. Goldman's wife".  That was the little boy's MOTHER, who bore this child, and who took him home, away from the New Jersey she hated, and into the bosom of her extended family, where she herself had grown up. The Goldmans did not meet and commence their relationship in New Jersey.  They only married and settled there once Bruna already was pregnant with Sean. Had Goldman been reasonable and allowed the child's mother to go home as she had begged to do, and to retain custody of the baby she risked her life to bring into the world, he would not have a complaint now about having been cut off. But selfishly, he did not do that.

"...relatives of Mr. Goldman's ex-wife, who died last year, were exploring legal options that would enable them to keep Sean..." Once again, "ex-wife" is used instead of "mother". Motherhood is invisible. The relatives are described as if they are strangers, rather than the beloved family members and home this child understandably does not want to leave. They include blood relatives of the child, with whom he has lived for nearly his entire childhood memory with his mother, who recently -- ironically -- died in childbirth.

Pandering Rep. Smith has called David Goldman the "primary caregiver" and the child's "best friend", again ignoring the woman who gave birth to the child and actually was the child's closest attachment. http://www.nytimes.com/2009/12/23/world/americas/23rio.html

Is the situation painful and difficult? Of course. But propaganda does not help. While the U.S. press and politicos condemn Bruna for bringing her baby with her to Brazil, and now also condemn the boy's real emotional family for wanting to protect him, the same media ignore that what the father seeks to do to this child who just lost his mother is exponentially worse. Notwithstanding the ignorant peanut galleries who chime along in favor of men's rights to declare where their chattel women and the children they bear must reside, mothers of children who are abducted from them don't seem to get Congressional Resolutions or incessant international media coverage. That apparently is reserved mainly for mothers AS abductors. The expedient application of a faux gender neutrality to parentage primarily for the benefit of fathers' rights is Orwellian.

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A Letter To Sean

http://murphymilanojournal.blogspot.com/2009/12/letter-to-sean.html

On November 28th, 2009, Karen Kahler and her daughters Emily and Lauren were shot to death by Karen's estranged husband while they were visiting her grandmother, Dorothy, for the Thanksgiving holiday. Dorothy was also shot and died a few days later.

Sean, a 10-year old son, escaped while bullets were being fired upon his family by his father inside the house, running for his life and surviving this horrific tragedy, phyically unharmed.

[As a violence expert and veteran to surviving family homicide, I was moved to write this young man a letter. Although I am using Sean's name it could have been Craig, Jennifer, Alice, Tom, Christopher, Bobby, Kathy, Lisa, Andrew, Laci, Conner, Cheryl with a list that goes on and on of children left to find their place in this world without those whom they love and, more importantly without answers.]

Dear Sean:

This is your first holiday without your sisters, grand grandmother and mother.The events that lead up to their deaths will for a very long time play out over and over in your mind as if you are watching a scary movie. You will have terrible nightmares, cold sweats, and be woken by a soft tender voice comforting you, suggesting "you to go back to sleep, it's okay. It was only a dream." But, you find going back to sleep difficult. Instead you may cry or get angry. And that is okay.

While you are awake, during the day, something will remind you of the tragedy. A dog barking outside, a silly commericial on television or simply the closing of a bedroom door. It doesn't take much really to remind you of what happend. And in the months to follow you will probably wonder when will you stop feeling so horrible. When will the pain go away? Some days will be better than others. And sometimes the pain you feel will be with you as if it were your worst enemy. You can't tell it to go away. You are not able to run from it. It will be your companion for many months.

After Christmas and New Year's it will be time for you to go back to school. At first you will have the feeling of your body being in a kind of thick fog. And your feet will not feel as if they are touching the ground as you walk. I suggest a relative sew in marbles or a few coins in the cuff's of your pants. This will help you feel like you are weighted down in some way. At the start of your first day back you might notice mom's driving or walking their kids to school. This will make you miss your mom all the more. You might be overwhelmed by this and ask the person who took you to school to bring you back to the house. You are not ready yet. This is a normal feeling.

Once you start feeling a little better and return to school try and get involved in a sport that you enjoy. Try to make friends with other kids in your class. And if you are invited to do something after school over on the weekend, accept the invitation only when you feel ready. Sometimes adults make us feel like we have to try or do something we do not feel ready or comfortable doing. Use your best judgement in each situation.

Maybe start your own private journal. Include the times you shared together with your Mom. The trips you took or how she made a special meal you enjoyed. On holidays make your mom a special card and place it in the journal. When your mom's birthday approaches do something special that she might have enjoyed sharing with you. If she had a favorite saying remember to write it down so you will always remember her words. Keep special photo's in the journal or on a disk. If your mom's voice is on her cell phone or the house phone on a recording ask a relative to make a few copies for you so you can hear her voice when you are feeling sad.

The most important piece of advice I can offer you is that you are stronger than you may believe. When you have bad days remember that your mother, although she is in heaven, lives in your heart. And even though you are not able to see or touch her in human form, she walks beside you proudly, from the moment you awake, until the time you rest your head at night.

The love of your Mom will remain with you, Sean, every single precious moment as you grow and build your own life, finish school and someday have a family of your own.

POSTED BY SUSAN MURPHY MILANO'S JOURNAL AT 00:01

LABELS: ANSWERS, BRUTAL MURDER, CHRISTMAS LIGHTS, DAVID LETTERMAN, DEATH, FAITH, GOD, HOLIDAYS, JOURNAL, KAREN KAHLER,LOSS, MISSING LOVED ONE, PAIN, SURVIVE

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gawd knows I have been on this list I am alive only because they stopped all visitation- I do not see my daughter. We have to end this- it is insane! ThX Dastardly Dads

http://dastardlydads.blogspot.com/2009/12/dad-murders-mom-during-child-custody.html

http://dastardlydads.blogspot.com/2009/12/dad-found-guilty-in-murder-of-estranged.html

http://dastardlydads.blogspot.com/2009/11/child-drop-off-leads-to-estranged-wifes.html

http://dastardlydads.blogspot.com/2009/10/dad-charged-with-assaulting-estranged.html

http://dastardlydads.blogspot.com/2009/09/dad-murders-mom-during-scheduled.html

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Fathers: Do you want full custody of your child without having to pay ANY child support?

All you have to do is sexually abuse your child.

Just make sure that NO ONE is looking and make sure there is NO physical evidence. If your child doesn't tell his/her mother, do it again until whatever you do disturbs your child so much that your child will tell Mom. Then just sit back and relax. Your work is done!

BE SURE to document how upset your ex-wife/girlfriend gets when she hears about what you did. The more she tries to protect the child, the more she'll look "crazy" because there are NO witnesses and NO physical evidence.

Then find a court evaluator and a lawyer who do "parental alienation" cases. They will tell the judge that your ex-wife/ex-girlfriend has "Parental Alienation Syndrome" and/or "Munchhausen Syndrome"

Just Google "father's rights" and you'll find plenty of help with this legal strategy.

Remember to stay cool when you're in court. The more composed you appear, the more your ex will seem crazy because she'll KNOW you sexually abused your child

The court won't protect your child from further abuse because there's NO proof and YOUR the biological father with the RIGHT to raise your child! It's important to say things like "I want shared custody" (even though you really don't).

When you see the case start to go your way, remember to play the part. Look worried and say things that make the judge think that you are concerned about your ex's mental condition. Say that you want her to have contact with your children but that her contact should be "supervised" so she can't continue to "alienate" your children from you.

The judge will take your children from her and give her only "supervised visits" Once that happens, watch how upset and "crazy" she'll get!

Contact the "father's right's" groups. They'll help you find the right people to talk with about this winning strategy!

Sick strategy? Yes. A national scandal bigger than the Catholic Church scandal.

Posted by:
silencedmother 7:50 AM

 

I have seen similar comments all over the internet about how Islam has the right idea, that the men are treated right, etc.

http://abcnews.go.com/2020/ChrisCuomo/fighting-liam-fathers-custody-battle-continues/comments?type=story&id=9315571

Comment

I am continually amazed at how tainted opinions are towards women. The comments that the 'male ruled courts' are unjust towards women astounds me. What percentage of fathers are awarded custody of their children while they are held financially responsible, even when in cases where the mother is unfit by any measure? Where is it written that a mother is a better parent than a father? We are victims of a society that believes a woman is "special" because she has a ####. In truth, women are passive aggressive, manipulative, and vengeful. They emasculate boy children and convince girls they are special because they have a ####. Where would these women be without a man and his penis? This entire attitude is so off the mark. After all, Eve would not exist without Adam's rib. Women weaken the human race. The nation of Islam has the right idea. They truly know how much women are truly worth.

Posted by:
DesertColonel 2:37 AM

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