~the stormz are here~
Date : 7/29/2009 Time: 4:00 PM EST 3:00 PM CST 1:00 PM PST Call-in Number: (347) 326-9337 Show Link: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/susanmurphymilano
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~the stormz are here~
Date : 7/29/2009 Time: 4:00 PM EST 3:00 PM CST 1:00 PM PST Call-in Number: (347) 326-9337 Show Link: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/susanmurphymilano
Posted by Claudine Dombrowski
On the Susan Murphy Milano show we will have Detective Mike from Opt Out Detectivesdiscuss Identity theft as it pertains to your children, in a divorce or custody situation and if you are in fear for your safety, how do youprotect yourself? How do you keep your personal informationsafe?
We will also take your questions live on the show. I suggest youhave your questions ready as you spend the hour learning how to be safe.
PROTECT YOUR PERSONAL INFORMATION FROM THOSE WHO WOULD DO YOU HARM!
Date : 7/29/2009
Time: 4:00 PM EST 3:00 PM CST 1:00 PM PST
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Susan Murphy Milano Show 7/29/2009 3pm CST call in (347) 326-9337 http://tobtr.com/s/609452
Mary is a 51 year- old mother of 3 who will be officially divorced this week after 22 years of marriage.
Her road to life without abuse similar to millions of others in her situation will continue to be difficult. This morning as she was moving into her new home, Mary felt uneasy about her safety. "He's not done with me. I know he will kill me or make it look like an accident. I am terrified." While waiting for the alarm company installer to arrive Mary and I went over safety issues to implement and watch for in her new home.
We walked around the outside of the house with a handyman she hired to secure the windows by placing hinges on the inside removing all the screens replacing then with storm windows. We marked all the doors to be replaced with deadbolts not only on each door but included the screen storm doors, and side door of the garage. Once the alarm company arrived we strategically discussed the placement of the wireless system. In Mary's situation because her husband is angry and violent and has thtretened to take her life the alarm company also wired the garage and extra windows leading into the basement. It cost several hundred dollars extra but it was well worth it.
The alarm company installer suggested that the entire landscape of bushes, or large plants near any of the widows be either cut very low or removed entirely. So that no one could hide. Then Mary and I went to Menards and bought motions lights for the outside of the home and various timers for lights inside the house.
Her husband was scheduled to pick up their son for dinner after I left. I received a text message from Mary, "when he got here he came after me and I had to call the police-they refused to arrest him and I insisted a report be made-Susan he had the look of death in his eyes and he told me I'll never make it to court alive on thursday-he said if I drop divorce he'll forgive me and we can stay married. "
The safety strategies I have implemented for Mary are specific to her abuser and how handy he is at breaking and entering into places always without anyone seeing him. His anger is at a very dangerous level and Mary has a 50/50 chance at staying alive ifshe remains calm and on guard at all times. And it is a lot of work, but it is possible.
Often a woman is killed because she was not prepared to defendherself. Or the courts refuse to issue an order of protection or police do not feel they have enough to make an arrest. Regardless, a woman fights for the system to do its' job and to basically while continuing to fight the abuser when no one is looking , then fight for her kids and her life. I think about women like Kathleen Savio, the third wife of Drew Peterson. Was there an alarm in the home? If yes why wasn't it activated? Drew Peterson is not only a trainedpolice officer but a skilled locksmith. Did he sneak in while she was sleeping? Did Peterson catch Kathleen off guard at a time of night when it was least expected? Did he sneak into the house and pull a gun on her? Did Kathleen and Drew Peterson struggle? In my opinion like criminal profilers, these are cases that I study in hopes of keeping other women alive.
As a society we have a long way to go before we treat domesticviolence in the home as a crime. And then just maybe in high school classrooms we can replace how to correctly use a condom with how to know the signs of an abuser and how to stay safe and what to do if you are in an abusive relationship.
If you have ended a relationship, change those locks, immediately! And do a walk around your home. Remove any ladders, make sure the garage is locked, put away any tools. And yes, even rearrange your living space.What about your windows and sliding glass doors? Get yourself over to the hardware store and find the best cost effective method to bars and locks for these areas.
What about a Do? Don't have a dog? Go ahead and buy or make a Dog Beware sign and put it in your windows.Another great tip is to record the sound of a barking dog. If you don't have a dog, take a recorder and head to the nearest dog shelter and tape the barking sounds. Go ahead and even record your phone voice and message right there on the spot, at the dog shelter. Say something like" Okay Sparky, I'm on the phone, that's enough, be quiet, sorry can't come to the phone please leave a message .Then head home and play it into your phone message system. Then strangers and others you are trying to keep away will think you have dogs and that may deter them. You can also play a recoding each time you answer your telephone with just the sounds of a barking dog. What about a basic home security system? This goes hand in hand with the other security solutions above. To learn more about systems here is an alarm link:http://www.homeimprovementmag.com/Articles/2006/06May_safe_@_home.html If you keep a spare key outside someplace-stop it now! Never leave a key anywhere outside your home.If you are not expecting anyone or anything to arrive at your door, do not open the door. If the bell continues to ring waiting for you to answer the door and you do not know who it is, call 911.And never, ever leave any type of note on your door or mail box for anyone. Either text message them, send an email or do it the old fashioned way and call them.
If you would like to email me please know that everything sent is read only by me and is kept in strict confidence. Again, the email address is contact@movingoutmovingon.com
Tonight On The Levi Page Show with criminal profiler and authorPat Brown, Investigator and Author Vito Colucci, Jr., and myselfwe will discuss the Kathleen Savio murder.
The Levi Page Show airs Sunday night at 10 PM EST / 9 CST / 8 MST / 7 PST on BlogTalkRadio at:http://www.blogtalkradio.com/levipage The "Levi Page Show" is a listener interactive, call-in, true crime and justice show, for those interested in the hot true crime cases in the headlines and the crime victims often ignored by the mainstream media.
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Prosecutor: Dad killed girl to avoid child support
By GREG RISLING (AP) – 12 hours ago
LOS ANGELES — A father who had no interest in his 4-year-old daughter did the unimaginable — hurling her off a 120-foot cliff to avoid paying child support, a prosecutor said Monday during the man's murder retrial.
Cameron Brown, 47, was charged with one count of murder and the special circumstance allegations of murder while lying in wait and murder for financial gain in the death of Lauren Sarene Key in November 2000. Brown, a former American Airlines baggage handler, has pleaded not guilty and faces life in prison without parole if convicted.
Deputy District Attorney Craig Hum said during his opening statement that Brown killed Lauren because he didn't want to pay about $1,000 a month in child support.
Defense attorney Pat Harris countered that it was an accident when the girl fell from Inspiration Point in Rancho Palos Verdes.
Hum portrayed Brown as an uncaring father who tried to shirk his parental responsibility at nearly every turn. After Brown learned the girl's mother, Sarah Key-Marer, was pregnant with Lauren, he first wanted her to have an abortion and then sought a paternity test that eventually proved he was the father, Hum said.
"Does he show any interest in the child he fathered?" Hum asked. "Absolutely not."
Only when he was forced to pay child support did Brown finally see his daughter — about three years after she was born, Hum said, adding that the total number of hours Brown spent with his daughter during her life amounted to about two weeks.
Hum argued that Brown and Lauren went out to the cliff where nobody could see them, and he "hurled" her into the Pacific Ocean.
"This man picked up Lauren, whom he fathered but was never a father to, and threw her off a cliff into the water below," Hum said.
Brown, wearing a dark suit and a red tie, stared at Hum during his opening statement and showed no reaction.
Harris gave a different account of his client's relationship with his daughter, insisting the case was nothing more than "character assassination." He dismissed the prosecution's contention that it was a "good-versus-evil" struggle between Brown and Key-Marer.
"It was two parents trying to work out arrangements so they could have a happy child," Harris said.
Harris said Brown carried a picture of Lauren in his wallet, gave her gifts and toasted with his friends when he learned he would get visitation rights. Two weeks before her death, Brown filed court documents seeking more visits with Lauren, Harris said.
"It doesn't make sense," he said.
The prosecution's first witness was Key-Marer, a British immigrant, who described her relationship with Brown as amicable but deteriorated during the child custody dispute after she said in court documents that he was showing little interest in Lauren's life.
Key-Marer testified that her daughter wouldn't share what she did with Brown and Lauren was upset the day she died once she learned Brown would pick her up at school.
"She said, 'No, no I don't want to see him today,'" Key-Marer said. "She was crying and I had trouble getting her out of the car seat."
In a wrenching moment, Key-Marer said after talking to her daughter on the phone she decided to leave work early and pick up Lauren. But she soon learned that Brown had arrived early and she wouldn't be able to get there in time.
She described waiting for Lauren that night, looking out her window for her daughter and Brown to return. Distraught, she and her husband decided to notify authorities because they thought Brown may have kidnapped Lauren.
"We knew something really bad had happened," she said.
Key-Marer broke into tears when she recounted how a female police detective told her that her daughter had died.
"I remember hearing the words 'cliff' and 'Lauren was dead,'" Key-Marer said before court recessed for the day. "I just couldn't believe it."
Brown was tried three years ago, but a mistrial was declared after a jury deadlocked on the severity of the crime. Some jurors favored a first-degree murder conviction, while others voted for second-degree murder or manslaughter.
Both sides intend to call experts to give their opinions on how Lauren died. Jurors will also take a trip to the cliff to see where the alleged crime occurred.
(This version CORRECTS UPDATES with afternoon testimony, details. corrects reference to number of times Brown visited daughter from 12 times to two weeks.)
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An article in TIME Magazine about the "Mother's Act"-- Federal legislation that would require screening all women who give birth for depression--has sparked a cyberspace debate.
http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1909628-1,00.html
Dr. James Douglas Bremner (psychiatrist at Emory University) joined those of us who challenge the promoters of such legislation by debunking the fundamental flaw in their reasoning:
" he notes:
"First of all, there is no evidence that women without a prior history of anxiety and depression have any increased risk of getting post partum depression. So to screen all moms as if giving birth is a risk factor for depression is ridiculous."
Second: "whenever you start screening the general population, you get into problems with over-identification of people and an increase in the number of people that go on antidepressants."
Third: "I am opposed to mandatory screenings of the population, like Teenscreen, which are bonanzas for the pharmaceutical industry, but a major intrusion into the privacy and autonomy of American citizens."
Of note, the "Mother's Act" was ostensibly prompted by the suicide of Melanie Blocker-Stokes, who leaped to her death from her hotel room in Chicago three months after the birth of her daughter. However, what is ignored by the promoters--most notably industry funded psychiatrists and industry front groups (who call themselves "advocates") is that Melanie Blocker-Stokes had already been treated with multiple courses of psychotropic drugs and electro-convulsive therapy. So, how exactly would her life have been saved by "screening"??? See:
http://www.beforeyoutakethatpill.com/
This is but an example of stealth marketing: the pharmaceutical industry with the help of an army of industry supported medical lackeys are medicalizing normal stages of life--including childhood, adolescence, and motherhood. They are promoting public health policies that would vastly increase the size of the market for psychoactive drugs--even as these drugs toxic, life-threatening hazards require Black Box label warnings.
To wit, TIME quotes University of Pittsburgh psychiatrist, Katherine Wisner, MD stating ""Postpartum depression is not a benign, uncommon thing.... Why don't we screen women for this?" What TIME failed to disclose is that Dr. Wisner is listed on the speakers bureau for Pfizer and Lilly, makers of the antidepressants, Zoloft and Prozac--drugs that carry Black Box label warnings about increased risks of suicide.
Reality: Doctors who serve on pharmaceutical speaker's bureaus give "promotional talks" on behalf of the company that pays them--the service they render for pay is to advertise drugs to other doctors--despite the confirmed evidence of these drugs serious hazards.
Most of such market-driven prescribing violates medicine's first principle, "First, do no harm." Indeed, such prescribing does far more harm than good, as individual's best interest is ignored.
An unfortunate error in the original TIME article--the one that hit the newsstands--misstated Amy Philo's experience as becoming seriously suicidal and homicidal following the birth of her child. In fact those violent feelings emerged AFTER being prescribed Zoloft:
"she started having suicidal and homicidal thoughts, which got stronger when another doctor raised her dosage. Eventually, Philo says, she weaned herself off the drug, and her violent feelings disappeared."
A correction on the TIME website states:
"The original version of this article stated that after Amy Philo's newborn suffered an accidental choking incident, Philo's preoccupation with his safety included fear of hurting her baby herself. However, Philo says that particular feeling did not intrude until later, after she began taking antidepressant medication."
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Posted By Claudine Dombrowski to Kansans For Judicial Accountability at 7/17/2009 11:21:00 PM
Apparently, our government is seriously considering granting asylum for battered women from other countries. Now there is a concept! Curious, I contacted a church that helps those granted asylum and learned when our government provides assistance, the person is given housing, placed on public aide amounting to approximately $2,000 a month and in many cases a second hand vehicle so they can get around. And other perks depending on the individual’s needs. We cannot take care of victims of abuse in our own country. Why are we extending a hand to foreigners? Is the abusedifferent or more life threatening from the women in our owncountry?
Women whom are born in United States are living in the same conditions as those the government has offered to help with little to no options for safety and proper services to escape their abusers. I personally know several hundred women whom arebeaten, raped, kept like prisoners in their own homes and forced to deal with their abusers one way or the other or else they will bekilled, identical life threatening situations as the women in theNew York Times article. Where is the asylum for Americanwomen?
If our government can come up with a way to house, educate and find jobs for battered women from other countries in this economy, we should first have a system in place for Americanwomen before we start offering a safe haven to immigrants.
Do not misunderstand. I am about helping battered women, but let us help those where we have the greatest need, and the highest mortality rate, right here in the good old United States.
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WEDNESDAY, JULY 15, 2009
A Woman's Self Worth-Fight For it Damn It! Live 3:00 PM CST On The Susan Murphy Milano Show
Date : 7/15/2009
Time: 4:00 PM EST 3:00 PM CST 1:00 PM PST
Call-in Number: (347) 326-9337
Show Link: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/susanmurphymilano
Our amazing line-up for today's show includes Anny Jacoby, Owner/President of The Realistic Female Self-Defense Company, Gail Lakritz from Wings of Change and Michelle a police officers wife and you the listeners.
Susan Murphy-Milano violence expert and author of "Defending Our Lives, getting away from domestic violence & staying safe andMoving Out, Moving On when a relationship goes wrong. And her new book out in 2010,"Time’s Up, how to leave and survive a dangerous relationship ,offers detailed practical information. Like your own guardian angel giving listeners guidance on what to do when you are in an abusive relationship, attempting to leave to creating a road map to safety every step of the way. As a former executive director of a high risk national domestic violence organization, violent expert and author she speakers from experience. Her voice has been featured on Oprah, 20/20, The Justice Files, US News & World Report, USA Today, Family circle magazine, CNN, NBC’s Sunday Today and she comments regularly on headlines making the news. Susan can be heard co-hosting the popular weekly radio show, “Justice Interrupted,” , every Tuesday at 10:00 PM CST, with police officer, Stacy Dittrich, and prosecutor, Robin Sax, highlighting cases that have not receivedthe media attention they deserve.
Visit Susan’s website at http://www.susanmurphymilano.com/
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TUESDAY, JULY 14, 2009
As a nation we would receive a failing grade in the war against violence in the home. Twenty years ago I had tremendous hope that violence would be a battle won when I signed on to change the world and the stop bloodshed. I was wrong. The magnitude of murder, rape, parental alienation, fear, power and control is an epidemic consuming the lives of families.
Over the weekend an article appeared saying “domestic violence laws need review.” How ridiculous I thought to myself, to review what has never been effective, waste more time and in the process more women will continue to die in their own homes. All the studies are a waste of valuable time that many as I write this simply do not have. An order of protection if you are lucky enough to get one means little without the police, prosecutors and a no tolerance community enforcement of that piece of paper. Granted a court order has saved lives, but in my opinion not enough to fill a gymnasium. I can give a long list of those who did not make it and died because we do not have answers. Instead services are like a patch-work quilt poorly sewn together because there is a lack of commitment and most importantly funding for those in the trenches who are fighting to keep women and children alive, barely, one at a time.
You have women gathered on the internet desperately seeking direction, support advice or help for a lawyer to represent them like human beings or to keep their abuser away from the kids. How about the mom who stayed home to raise her children and cannot even scrape together gas money or car fare to attend a hearing for a court order or a divorce hearing where if she does not show up she defaults like at a spots game losing her home, kids and any financial ability to move forward. If it is a divorce she is the one who must pay child support and continue going to court for issues that are nothing more than a game of clear abuse. With ill skilled court personal playing a game that as of late in leading to death.
Then yet another article appeared “the war at home: domestic violence takes a shocking toll”. What rock has everyone been living under? Where are the articles following the woman pleading in a court of law for an order of protection when she is denied? Where are the reporters asking the important questions to theprosecuting attorney’s , judge's and so called mental health "experts" whom are not doing their jobs? Where is the follow-up after the murders of Jack and Duncan Connelly? Why aren’t the people who investigate and bring us our nightly dose of news demanding answers in a dangerous legal system instead of following live coverage of 30-minute car chases?
Cases such as Drew Peterson have generated lots of dollars fornetworks and advertising sponsors and will continue to do so when his trial begins sometime this year. Why not gear up and send reporters out to the war torn court houses of America and report accurately on the conditions in which women alive and dead are fighting for their lives.
It is upsetting to see troops rally in the form of doctors and public officials when the media reports the onset of reported flu outbreaks in a few states usually amounting to about 20 people causing folks to take action. And yet we have hundreds of thousands of women murdered or terrorized in their homes and they can not even get carfare to save their lives!
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Time's Up is a Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships written by Susan Murphy-Milano
~the stormz are here~
Date : 7/29/2009 Time: 4:00 PM EST 3:00 PM CST 1:00 PM PST Call-in Number: (347) 326-9337 Show Link: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/susanmurphymilano
On the Susan Murphy Milano show we will have Detective Mike from Opt Out Detectivesdiscuss Identity theft as it pertains to your children, in a divorce or custody situation and if you are in fear for your safety, how do youprotect yourself? How do you keep your personal informationsafe?
We will also take your questions live on the show. I suggest youhave your questions ready as you spend the hour learning how to be safe.
PROTECT YOUR PERSONAL INFORMATION FROM THOSE WHO WOULD DO YOU HARM!
Date : 7/29/2009
Time: 4:00 PM EST 3:00 PM CST 1:00 PM PST
Call-in Number: (347) 326-9337
Show Link: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/susanmurphymilano
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Mary is a 51 year- old mother of 3 who will be officially divorced this week after 22 years of marriage.
Her road to life without abuse similar to millions of others in her situation will continue to be difficult. This morning as she was moving into her new home, Mary felt uneasy about her safety. "He's not done with me. I know he will kill me or make it look like an accident. I am terrified." While waiting for the alarm company installer to arrive Mary and I went over safety issues to implement and watch for in her new home.
We walked around the outside of the house with a handyman she hired to secure the windows by placing hinges on the inside removing all the screens replacing then with storm windows. We marked all the doors to be replaced with deadbolts not only on each door but included the screen storm doors, and side door of the garage. Once the alarm company arrived we strategically discussed the placement of the wireless system. In Mary's situation because her husband is angry and violent and has thtretened to take her life the alarm company also wired the garage and extra windows leading into the basement. It cost several hundred dollars extra but it was well worth it.
The alarm company installer suggested that the entire landscape of bushes, or large plants near any of the widows be either cut very low or removed entirely. So that no one could hide. Then Mary and I went to Menards and bought motions lights for the outside of the home and various timers for lights inside the house.
Her husband was scheduled to pick up their son for dinner after I left. I received a text message from Mary, "when he got here he came after me and I had to call the police-they refused to arrest him and I insisted a report be made-Susan he had the look of death in his eyes and he told me I'll never make it to court alive on thursday-he said if I drop divorce he'll forgive me and we can stay married. "
The safety strategies I have implemented for Mary are specific to her abuser and how handy he is at breaking and entering into places always without anyone seeing him. His anger is at a very dangerous level and Mary has a 50/50 chance at staying alive ifshe remains calm and on guard at all times. And it is a lot of work, but it is possible.
Often a woman is killed because she was not prepared to defendherself. Or the courts refuse to issue an order of protection or police do not feel they have enough to make an arrest. Regardless, a woman fights for the system to do its' job and to basically while continuing to fight the abuser when no one is looking , then fight for her kids and her life. I think about women like Kathleen Savio, the third wife of Drew Peterson. Was there an alarm in the home? If yes why wasn't it activated? Drew Peterson is not only a trainedpolice officer but a skilled locksmith. Did he sneak in while she was sleeping? Did Peterson catch Kathleen off guard at a time of night when it was least expected? Did he sneak into the house and pull a gun on her? Did Kathleen and Drew Peterson struggle? In my opinion like criminal profilers, these are cases that I study in hopes of keeping other women alive.
As a society we have a long way to go before we treat domesticviolence in the home as a crime. And then just maybe in high school classrooms we can replace how to correctly use a condom with how to know the signs of an abuser and how to stay safe and what to do if you are in an abusive relationship.
If you have ended a relationship, change those locks, immediately! And do a walk around your home. Remove any ladders, make sure the garage is locked, put away any tools. And yes, even rearrange your living space.What about your windows and sliding glass doors? Get yourself over to the hardware store and find the best cost effective method to bars and locks for these areas.
What about a Do? Don't have a dog? Go ahead and buy or make a Dog Beware sign and put it in your windows.Another great tip is to record the sound of a barking dog. If you don't have a dog, take a recorder and head to the nearest dog shelter and tape the barking sounds. Go ahead and even record your phone voice and message right there on the spot, at the dog shelter. Say something like" Okay Sparky, I'm on the phone, that's enough, be quiet, sorry can't come to the phone please leave a message .Then head home and play it into your phone message system. Then strangers and others you are trying to keep away will think you have dogs and that may deter them. You can also play a recoding each time you answer your telephone with just the sounds of a barking dog. What about a basic home security system? This goes hand in hand with the other security solutions above. To learn more about systems here is an alarm link:http://www.homeimprovementmag.com/Articles/2006/06May_safe_@_home.html If you keep a spare key outside someplace-stop it now! Never leave a key anywhere outside your home.If you are not expecting anyone or anything to arrive at your door, do not open the door. If the bell continues to ring waiting for you to answer the door and you do not know who it is, call 911.And never, ever leave any type of note on your door or mail box for anyone. Either text message them, send an email or do it the old fashioned way and call them.
If you would like to email me please know that everything sent is read only by me and is kept in strict confidence. Again, the email address is contact@movingoutmovingon.com
Tonight On The Levi Page Show with criminal profiler and authorPat Brown, Investigator and Author Vito Colucci, Jr., and myselfwe will discuss the Kathleen Savio murder.
The Levi Page Show airs Sunday night at 10 PM EST / 9 CST / 8 MST / 7 PST on BlogTalkRadio at:http://www.blogtalkradio.com/levipage The "Levi Page Show" is a listener interactive, call-in, true crime and justice show, for those interested in the hot true crime cases in the headlines and the crime victims often ignored by the mainstream media.
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Prosecutor: Dad killed girl to avoid child support
By GREG RISLING (AP) – 12 hours ago
LOS ANGELES — A father who had no interest in his 4-year-old daughter did the unimaginable — hurling her off a 120-foot cliff to avoid paying child support, a prosecutor said Monday during the man's murder retrial.
Cameron Brown, 47, was charged with one count of murder and the special circumstance allegations of murder while lying in wait and murder for financial gain in the death of Lauren Sarene Key in November 2000. Brown, a former American Airlines baggage handler, has pleaded not guilty and faces life in prison without parole if convicted.
Deputy District Attorney Craig Hum said during his opening statement that Brown killed Lauren because he didn't want to pay about $1,000 a month in child support.
Defense attorney Pat Harris countered that it was an accident when the girl fell from Inspiration Point in Rancho Palos Verdes.
Hum portrayed Brown as an uncaring father who tried to shirk his parental responsibility at nearly every turn. After Brown learned the girl's mother, Sarah Key-Marer, was pregnant with Lauren, he first wanted her to have an abortion and then sought a paternity test that eventually proved he was the father, Hum said.
"Does he show any interest in the child he fathered?" Hum asked. "Absolutely not."
Only when he was forced to pay child support did Brown finally see his daughter — about three years after she was born, Hum said, adding that the total number of hours Brown spent with his daughter during her life amounted to about two weeks.
Hum argued that Brown and Lauren went out to the cliff where nobody could see them, and he "hurled" her into the Pacific Ocean.
"This man picked up Lauren, whom he fathered but was never a father to, and threw her off a cliff into the water below," Hum said.
Brown, wearing a dark suit and a red tie, stared at Hum during his opening statement and showed no reaction.
Harris gave a different account of his client's relationship with his daughter, insisting the case was nothing more than "character assassination." He dismissed the prosecution's contention that it was a "good-versus-evil" struggle between Brown and Key-Marer.
"It was two parents trying to work out arrangements so they could have a happy child," Harris said.
Harris said Brown carried a picture of Lauren in his wallet, gave her gifts and toasted with his friends when he learned he would get visitation rights. Two weeks before her death, Brown filed court documents seeking more visits with Lauren, Harris said.
"It doesn't make sense," he said.
The prosecution's first witness was Key-Marer, a British immigrant, who described her relationship with Brown as amicable but deteriorated during the child custody dispute after she said in court documents that he was showing little interest in Lauren's life.
Key-Marer testified that her daughter wouldn't share what she did with Brown and Lauren was upset the day she died once she learned Brown would pick her up at school.
"She said, 'No, no I don't want to see him today,'" Key-Marer said. "She was crying and I had trouble getting her out of the car seat."
In a wrenching moment, Key-Marer said after talking to her daughter on the phone she decided to leave work early and pick up Lauren. But she soon learned that Brown had arrived early and she wouldn't be able to get there in time.
She described waiting for Lauren that night, looking out her window for her daughter and Brown to return. Distraught, she and her husband decided to notify authorities because they thought Brown may have kidnapped Lauren.
"We knew something really bad had happened," she said.
Key-Marer broke into tears when she recounted how a female police detective told her that her daughter had died.
"I remember hearing the words 'cliff' and 'Lauren was dead,'" Key-Marer said before court recessed for the day. "I just couldn't believe it."
Brown was tried three years ago, but a mistrial was declared after a jury deadlocked on the severity of the crime. Some jurors favored a first-degree murder conviction, while others voted for second-degree murder or manslaughter.
Both sides intend to call experts to give their opinions on how Lauren died. Jurors will also take a trip to the cliff to see where the alleged crime occurred.
(This version CORRECTS UPDATES with afternoon testimony, details. corrects reference to number of times Brown visited daughter from 12 times to two weeks.)
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An article in TIME Magazine about the "Mother's Act"-- Federal legislation that would require screening all women who give birth for depression--has sparked a cyberspace debate.
http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1909628-1,00.html
Dr. James Douglas Bremner (psychiatrist at Emory University) joined those of us who challenge the promoters of such legislation by debunking the fundamental flaw in their reasoning:
" he notes:
"First of all, there is no evidence that women without a prior history of anxiety and depression have any increased risk of getting post partum depression. So to screen all moms as if giving birth is a risk factor for depression is ridiculous."
Second: "whenever you start screening the general population, you get into problems with over-identification of people and an increase in the number of people that go on antidepressants."
Third: "I am opposed to mandatory screenings of the population, like Teenscreen, which are bonanzas for the pharmaceutical industry, but a major intrusion into the privacy and autonomy of American citizens."
Of note, the "Mother's Act" was ostensibly prompted by the suicide of Melanie Blocker-Stokes, who leaped to her death from her hotel room in Chicago three months after the birth of her daughter. However, what is ignored by the promoters--most notably industry funded psychiatrists and industry front groups (who call themselves "advocates") is that Melanie Blocker-Stokes had already been treated with multiple courses of psychotropic drugs and electro-convulsive therapy. So, how exactly would her life have been saved by "screening"??? See:
http://www.beforeyoutakethatpill.com/
This is but an example of stealth marketing: the pharmaceutical industry with the help of an army of industry supported medical lackeys are medicalizing normal stages of life--including childhood, adolescence, and motherhood. They are promoting public health policies that would vastly increase the size of the market for psychoactive drugs--even as these drugs toxic, life-threatening hazards require Black Box label warnings.
To wit, TIME quotes University of Pittsburgh psychiatrist, Katherine Wisner, MD stating ""Postpartum depression is not a benign, uncommon thing.... Why don't we screen women for this?" What TIME failed to disclose is that Dr. Wisner is listed on the speakers bureau for Pfizer and Lilly, makers of the antidepressants, Zoloft and Prozac--drugs that carry Black Box label warnings about increased risks of suicide.
Reality: Doctors who serve on pharmaceutical speaker's bureaus give "promotional talks" on behalf of the company that pays them--the service they render for pay is to advertise drugs to other doctors--despite the confirmed evidence of these drugs serious hazards.
Most of such market-driven prescribing violates medicine's first principle, "First, do no harm." Indeed, such prescribing does far more harm than good, as individual's best interest is ignored.
An unfortunate error in the original TIME article--the one that hit the newsstands--misstated Amy Philo's experience as becoming seriously suicidal and homicidal following the birth of her child. In fact those violent feelings emerged AFTER being prescribed Zoloft:
"she started having suicidal and homicidal thoughts, which got stronger when another doctor raised her dosage. Eventually, Philo says, she weaned herself off the drug, and her violent feelings disappeared."
A correction on the TIME website states:
"The original version of this article stated that after Amy Philo's newborn suffered an accidental choking incident, Philo's preoccupation with his safety included fear of hurting her baby herself. However, Philo says that particular feeling did not intrude until later, after she began taking antidepressant medication."
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Posted By Claudine Dombrowski to Kansans For Judicial Accountability at 7/17/2009 11:21:00 PM
Apparently, our government is seriously considering granting asylum for battered women from other countries. Now there is a concept! Curious, I contacted a church that helps those granted asylum and learned when our government provides assistance, the person is given housing, placed on public aide amounting to approximately $2,000 a month and in many cases a second hand vehicle so they can get around. And other perks depending on the individual’s needs. We cannot take care of victims of abuse in our own country. Why are we extending a hand to foreigners? Is the abusedifferent or more life threatening from the women in our owncountry?
Women whom are born in United States are living in the same conditions as those the government has offered to help with little to no options for safety and proper services to escape their abusers. I personally know several hundred women whom arebeaten, raped, kept like prisoners in their own homes and forced to deal with their abusers one way or the other or else they will bekilled, identical life threatening situations as the women in theNew York Times article. Where is the asylum for Americanwomen?
If our government can come up with a way to house, educate and find jobs for battered women from other countries in this economy, we should first have a system in place for Americanwomen before we start offering a safe haven to immigrants.
Do not misunderstand. I am about helping battered women, but let us help those where we have the greatest need, and the highest mortality rate, right here in the good old United States.
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A Woman's Self Worth-Fight For it Damn It! Live 3:00 PM CST On The Susan Murphy Milano Show
Date : 7/15/2009
Time: 4:00 PM EST 3:00 PM CST 1:00 PM PST
Call-in Number: (347) 326-9337
Show Link: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/susanmurphymilano
Our amazing line-up for today's show includes Anny Jacoby, Owner/President of The Realistic Female Self-Defense Company, Gail Lakritz from Wings of Change and Michelle a police officers wife and you the listeners.
Susan Murphy-Milano violence expert and author of "Defending Our Lives, getting away from domestic violence & staying safe andMoving Out, Moving On when a relationship goes wrong. And her new book out in 2010,"Time’s Up, how to leave and survive a dangerous relationship ,offers detailed practical information. Like your own guardian angel giving listeners guidance on what to do when you are in an abusive relationship, attempting to leave to creating a road map to safety every step of the way. As a former executive director of a high risk national domestic violence organization, violent expert and author she speakers from experience. Her voice has been featured on Oprah, 20/20, The Justice Files, US News & World Report, USA Today, Family circle magazine, CNN, NBC’s Sunday Today and she comments regularly on headlines making the news. Susan can be heard co-hosting the popular weekly radio show, “Justice Interrupted,” , every Tuesday at 10:00 PM CST, with police officer, Stacy Dittrich, and prosecutor, Robin Sax, highlighting cases that have not receivedthe media attention they deserve.
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TUESDAY, JULY 14, 2009
As a nation we would receive a failing grade in the war against violence in the home. Twenty years ago I had tremendous hope that violence would be a battle won when I signed on to change the world and the stop bloodshed. I was wrong. The magnitude of murder, rape, parental alienation, fear, power and control is an epidemic consuming the lives of families.
Over the weekend an article appeared saying “domestic violence laws need review.” How ridiculous I thought to myself, to review what has never been effective, waste more time and in the process more women will continue to die in their own homes. All the studies are a waste of valuable time that many as I write this simply do not have. An order of protection if you are lucky enough to get one means little without the police, prosecutors and a no tolerance community enforcement of that piece of paper. Granted a court order has saved lives, but in my opinion not enough to fill a gymnasium. I can give a long list of those who did not make it and died because we do not have answers. Instead services are like a patch-work quilt poorly sewn together because there is a lack of commitment and most importantly funding for those in the trenches who are fighting to keep women and children alive, barely, one at a time.
You have women gathered on the internet desperately seeking direction, support advice or help for a lawyer to represent them like human beings or to keep their abuser away from the kids. How about the mom who stayed home to raise her children and cannot even scrape together gas money or car fare to attend a hearing for a court order or a divorce hearing where if she does not show up she defaults like at a spots game losing her home, kids and any financial ability to move forward. If it is a divorce she is the one who must pay child support and continue going to court for issues that are nothing more than a game of clear abuse. With ill skilled court personal playing a game that as of late in leading to death.
Then yet another article appeared “the war at home: domestic violence takes a shocking toll”. What rock has everyone been living under? Where are the articles following the woman pleading in a court of law for an order of protection when she is denied? Where are the reporters asking the important questions to theprosecuting attorney’s , judge's and so called mental health "experts" whom are not doing their jobs? Where is the follow-up after the murders of Jack and Duncan Connelly? Why aren’t the people who investigate and bring us our nightly dose of news demanding answers in a dangerous legal system instead of following live coverage of 30-minute car chases?
Cases such as Drew Peterson have generated lots of dollars fornetworks and advertising sponsors and will continue to do so when his trial begins sometime this year. Why not gear up and send reporters out to the war torn court houses of America and report accurately on the conditions in which women alive and dead are fighting for their lives.
It is upsetting to see troops rally in the form of doctors and public officials when the media reports the onset of reported flu outbreaks in a few states usually amounting to about 20 people causing folks to take action. And yet we have hundreds of thousands of women murdered or terrorized in their homes and they can not even get carfare to save their lives!
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