Note: Cross posted from (blogger angelzfury) Anonymoms (we are everywhere).

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ANOTHER GUARDIAN AD CHARGEM

November 2, 2009 in Child Custody Issues, Child Custody for fathers, Children's Rights,Family Courts, activism, child abuse, domestic violence | Tags: aaron krzewinski,abused, abused children, abusers, abusive men, bad fathers, battered women,batterers, corruption, court whores, custody, domestic violence, family court, family court corruption, government corruption, Guardian ad Litem, Judges, Maija, maternal deprivation, mothers, protective parent, restraining orders, Ruth Estep, violence against women, women haters

What minor’s counsel does not want you to hear

http://www.examiner.com/x-14600-LA-Family-Courts-Examiner~y2009m10d20-What-minors-counsel-does-not-want-you-to-hear?cid=exrss-LA-Family-Courts-Examiner

Remember Maija? She is the young girl we heard on YouTube, crying and begging her attorney Ruth Estep, pleading not to be forced to live with her father.

Ms. Estep, appointed by the court, said the judge did not listen to a word she said. But listen to this YouTube video that dramatizes the testimony in court by Ms. Estep after the tearful plea from her client.

I have heard, but not seen any order or transcript, that Tonya Pinkins is required to remove all copies of the tape from the internet. This perplexes me. My understanding is that tapes cannot be used as evidence against a person if made without consent, but the actual taping is not a violation of law. And even if criminal charges cannot be brought against Ms. Estep, shouldn’t the court rethink its appointment of an attorney who does not seem to be representing her client?

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Note: Cross posted from [wp angelfury] I will not SHUT UP , GIVE UP and I WONT go away!!.

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MY DOG HATES ME

October 31, 2009 in Child Custody Issues, Child Custody for fathers, Children's Rights,Family Courts, activism, child abuse, domestic violence | Tags: abused, abused children,abusers, abusive men, bad fathers, battered women, batterers, corruption, court whores,custody, domestic abuse, domestic violence, family court, family court corruption, father rights, fathers, FR, government corruption, Judges, killer fathers, maternal deprivation,misogynists, mother rights, mothers, Murder-Suicide, parental alienation, pas,pedophiles, protective parent, restraining orders, stupid men, violence against women,women haters | Leave a comment

I don’t understand it….why would my dog hate me? I’m his owner, I give him housing and shelter, he is only here because of me.

I own him, I can do whatever I want to him and he better not hate me for it, I own him.

Why does my dog hate me when I buy him treats but then it is so much fun to tease him by taking them away. Just withholding his milkbone a few extra seconds makes him appreciate me more, I am his owner, I own him.

Why does my dog hate me, he reminds me of his mother… that bitch, I use to kick her around too and then she ran off, I OWNED her. But I still have my little buddy here to keep tormenting….torturing her still…..this dog really hates me…why? Must be his mother that taught him to hate me…what other reason would a dog have to hate it’s owner? He’s my dog to kick…you can’t hate me for that, I own him.

What’s that? You want your Mommy? Sorry….I own you.

Note: Cross posted from [wp angelfury] Battered Mothers Rights - A Human Rights Issue.

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Murri Men: Extraordinary Group of Men Battling Domestic Violence

Filed under: Activism, Australia, Child Abuse, Children and Domestic Violence, Children who witness abuse, Children's rights, Domestic Abuse, Domestic Relations, Domestic Violence,Family Court Reform, Family Courts, Family Rights, Good dudes, Hate Crimes, Violence against women — justice4mothers @ 9:04 am

From Australian Divorce Blog by Stephen Page:

Sunday, 1 November 2009

Murri men battling domestic violence

Once Were Warriors

On Wednesday night, in my role as a White Ribbon Ambassador, I had the honour of speaking to a group of extraordinary Murri men, includng an ex-Olympian, about domestic violence and White Ribbon Day.

White Ribbon Day is held on 25 November each year. It is the UN International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women. White Ribbon Day is an international movement of men saying that they are opposed to violence against women.

I am one of the 600 or so White Ribbon Ambassadors appointed by the White Ribbon Foundation.

I was honoured to talk to these Murri men. In my practice as a Brisbane family lawyer, I have acted for indigenous men and women over the years. Too often there has been violence in the relationship, often much worse than seen in non-indiginous relationships, often associated with other social deprivation, such as alcohol and drug use.

I was honoured on Wednesday night because these men were taking a stand against violence against women. The fact that they wanted to hear from someone talking about domestic violence was significant in itself.

After I had said what I had to say, I was amazed to listen to the men:

• one man had previously tried to watch Once Were Warriors, the critically acclaimed fim about domestic violence in a Maori relationship. He found it too traumatising and disrespectful to women, and had only watched 10 minutes of it. Some years later he had watched the whole fim, after hearing much critical comment of how good it was. I said that I had only managed to watch 15 minutes of it myself- as I found it touched a raw nerve.
• one man, an elder, had such a passionate commitment to ending domestic violence that he chairs the committee of a domestic violence service.
• another man, Norm Stevens, considered that it was more important that he had previously been a poster boy for White Ribbon Day, than a former Olympian!

Three years ago Norm was asked by the Sergeant running the local PCYC whether Norm was prepared to be photographed for White Ribbon Day. Norm readily agreed, and photos were distributed in the local area.

For me, while was that was great, it emphasised to me how much more important Norm considered the fight against domestic violence, as against the fact that he had represented Australia in boxing in the 1980 Moscow Olympics, and that this would have taken some personal courage, given that they were the boycott Olympics.

Note: Cross posted from [wp angelfury] Battered Mothers Rights - A Human Rights Issue.

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Domestic Violence Offenders Aren’t Being Punished

Filed under: Activism, Best interest of the child, Child Abuse, Child Custody, Child Custody Battle, Child Custody Issues, Child Rape, Children and Domestic Violence, Children who witness abuse, Children's rights, Corrupt bastards, Domestic Abuse, Domestic Violence,Familicide, Family Court Reform, Family Courts, Family Rights, Fathers who murder their children, Fathers who rape their children, Femicide, Homeless, Husbands who murder wives,Intimate Partner Assault, Murder - Suicide, Murdered Mothers, Violence against women — justice4mothers @ 7:32 pm

Wendy Murphy: Punishing abusers key to protecting women

By Wendy Murphy

GateHouse News Service

It’s October, which means it’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

But we don’t really need an “awareness month” anymore. There’s so much domestic violence, we’re in a chronic state of awareness. What we really need is a revolution.

First the facts:

- A woman is beaten every 15 seconds.

- Nearly two dozen victims of domestic violence are already dead this year alone in Massachusetts. Other states report similar numbers.

- As many as 10 million children a year are exposed to domestic violence, causing them to suffer emotional and psychological harm, not to mention that they grow up believing that smacking your spouse is part of a “normal” relationship. No surprise then that boys who watch their fathers beat their mothers are far more likely as adults to do the same thing to their female partners.

- According to the Justice Department, women suffer violent victimization more than 4 million times a year. Approximately one-third of the crimes are committed by intimate partners.

- Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury for American women between the ages of 15 and 44.

- Among homeless women and children, half are homeless because of domestic violence.

- Medical expenses resulting from domestic violence amount to around $4 billion annually.

Now a few of the embarrassing reasons for so much suffering:

- Most cases of domestic violence are not reported to law enforcement because victims fear retaliation, are financially dependent on their abuser, or believe the justice system will not protect them and/or is useless to deter the violence.

- Of the cases that are reported and accepted for prosecution, only about half end in conviction while one-third are dismissed by the prosecutor. For the small percentage of cases that end in conviction, the punishment is usually trivial.

In sum, there are three main reasons why women are abused in such large numbers by men who claim to love them: Offenders aren’t being punished! Offenders aren’t being punished! Offenders aren’t being punished!

Some argue that punishment doesn’t stop domestic violence and that we need to do more “education and prevention” to change the way males are raised so they will learn to respect women more. These tend to be the people who get funding to do “education and prevention.” In other words, they’re paid to co-opt victims into believing that justice and punishment aren’t important even though some research shows that the only thing that stops violent men is incapacitation (read: jail).

Even if education and cultural retraining might help some day, while we’re waiting around for our species to evolve, we need to give all endangered women a .45 caliber equalizer and we need to ramp up the punishment of batterers so that beating a woman isn’t sentenced on par with spitting on the sidewalk.

Anti-incarceration advocates will tell you that prison isn’t fun – and that it often spawns a toxic mental software that makes men who enter come out worse than ever when their sentence wraps up.

But if fear of becoming a monster in prison, and respect for women isn’t enough to deter a man from beating his wife, he’s already toxic – and putting him behind bars will prevent him from infecting innocent others with his poison. Punishment isn’t the only way to stop violence, but it is a legitimate and effective feature of our legal system. Lots of research shows how states that send a higher percentage of criminals to prison have lower rates of crime, even after controlling for all of things like poverty and urbanization.

But incarceration is a dirty word in the lexicon of some liberals who claim that locking people up gives the government dangerous amounts of power and threatens the freedom of the individual.

They’re wrong.

The freedom of FEMALE individuals is actually greatly enhanced when criminals who target women for violence are incapacitated.

But our legal system doesn’t care. And despite decades of disastrous statistics, our political leaders don’t care, either. In fact, nobody in a position of leadership is even complaining about the lack of justice for victimized women.

Earlier this month, there was a big to-do in D.C. about women’s issues in the Obama administration. Lynn Rosenthal, whose responsibility it is to deal with violence against women on behalf of the president, gave a lovely talk about all sorts of things, but never once mentioned the profound failure of law to redress domestic violence or the desperate need for tougher punishments for batterers.

Obviously, the men who promised “change” and “hope” for a better society, and who haven’t shied away from talking about the need for tough punishments for corporate criminals, have little “hope” to offer women in danger. It’s just more politicians in a long line of others who value stuff more than women’s lives.

Patriot Ledger contributor Wendy Murphy is a leading victims rights advocate and nationally recognized television legal analyst. She is an adjunct professor at New England Law in Boston. She can be reached at wmurphy@nesl.edu. Read more of her columns at The Daily Beast .

Note: Cross posted from [wp angelfury] I will not SHUT UP , GIVE UP and I WONT go away!!.

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FYI-More on Florida's love of Old English property law from Florida Now

Here is a description of the legal limitations grown women in Florida faced in 1941 thanks to an archivist in Los Angeles.  Many of the inequalities noted were not corrected in Florida until 1972 when the Legislature passed the Married Women's Property Act. Democrats were in the majority then to bring us other progressive and humane legislation, like the Baker Act for the mentally ill. With this tradition, any wonder why the ERA has not been ratified in Florida?

APATHY OF WOMEN IS BLAMED

wi th idiots, lunatics and minors, according

to Mrs. Ethel Ernest Murrell, Florida lawyer,

author and lecturer.

     This status obtains under the old com-

mon law of England, she says, which was

adopted by Florida at the time it became a

State and abandoned the Spanish laws. It

was cited by Mrs. Murrell as an example of

the legal discriminations against women

which still exist in the United States.

     The Florida attorney, who visited Boston

in the course of a lecture tour, explained that under this statute a married woman may not even open a charge account without her husband's written approval - a restriction which amazes tourists from other states. And if a married woman wants to go into business, she must first go to court and prove her competency.

     A bill to revise this law - which was thrown out in England in 1873 - is being placed before the Legislature at this session, said Mrs. Murrell. She has been working for four years in her State to liberalize its laws with respect to the rights of women, and is chairman of the legislative committee for the National Woman's Party in Florida.

     Pointing out that there are still eleven

backward States in the matter of women's

rights, Mrs. Murrell deplored the fact that

women on the whole are apathetic about the

situation.

American women, she claims, are "over-

privileged, under-worked and tragically spoiled," and affect a childish dependence which stunts their growth as contributing citizens of the community and the nation. Mrs. Murrell believes that women should "grow up and take their responsibilities. "

     When this country was colonized by the

early settlers, she pointed out that women

stood b eside their men in every occupation

and worked with them. The trouble today,

said the woman attorney, is "that women

don't have enough to do."

     She feels, too, that there is a mental

and moral decline in women who, after

being highly educated, get married and then

devote themselves to card playing and

cocktail parties.

     Mrs. Murrell would like to see women

become excited about their status, believe

in their future and work for it. "We go to

great length," she said, "to promote democ-

racy abroad when we haven't yet completed

our own democracy at home."

        ============ ========= ====

        THE CHRISTIAN SCIENCE MONITOR

        APRIL 17, 1941              PAGE 15

Note: Cross posted from [wp angelfury] Battered Mothers Rights - A Human Rights Issue.

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http://www.courant.com/news/domestic-violence/hc-dv-story.artnov01,0,5729639.story

Domestic Violence: The Statistics Draw Attention, And The Victims Keep Suffering

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  16,802 estimated family violence incidents in Connecticut year-to-date, based on 2007 data.

• Domestic Violence Blog: Overcoming Battered Lives

• Need Help Right Away?

  Contact Connecticut's statewide domestic violence hotline at 888-774-2900 for immediate help.

• Stories

• High-Profile Cases Put Spotlight On Domestic Abuse

• Topics

• Epidemics and Plagues

• Abusive Behavior

• Richard Blumenthal

  Between February and the end of August this year, five women were killed in Connecticut, another woman was kidnapped in downtown Hartford and held hostage for hours before escaping, and an 8-month-old girl was choked and stabbed, though she survived.

  All seven crimes have been connected to boyfriends, husbands and, in the last case, a father. All have been classified as domestic violence.

  But what's most extraordinary about these cases is that although each drew attention for its horrific details, as a group they represent business as usual in Connecticut. Every year in our small state, between 20 and 25 women are killed by men who say they love them. And that is a small percentage of the roughly 50,000 overall victims of domestic violence in Connecticut each year.

  By the beginning of September, The Courant and Fox61 had begun an effort to shine a light on this long-standing epidemic of domestic violence. Since then, in TV reports and in the newspaper, viewers and readers have learned what many may not have known:

  • Hartford Police Chief Daryl Roberts, after studying his department's statistics over the past few years, announced that one-third of aggravated assaults in the capital city are related to domestic violence. As a result, he created a Domestic Violence Response Unit to fight that trend.

  • Another initiative, called Men Make A Difference, is being led by state Attorney General Richard Blumenthal and Interval House, which helped about 6,000 adults in 2008. The effort recognizes that while most batterers are men, most men are not batterers, and those involved in the initiative are reaching out to teenagers and men to discuss their attitudes about women and relationships.

  • Although there have been efforts in the past 25 years to strengthen state laws to better protect women and their families, state courts vary widely in how they handle domestic violence cases. In 2007, conviction rates ranged from a high of 33 percent to a low of 9 percent.

  • The state agency in charge of a fund to help domestic violence shelters has released none of the money — more than $1 million — in two years, despite an increased need in services. The cause of the nonpayment is a still-unresolved dispute over whether the fund can legally be used for staff salaries. Meanwhile, just two of 16 shelters in the state have round-the-clock staffing.

  In the months ahead, the "Battered Lives" series will continue in both print and on TV. Today, we offer a synopsis of what we've learned thus far, in hopes that it will illuminate where we, as a state, need to go.

  — Courant Staff

  Copyright © 2009, The Hartford Courant

Note: Cross posted from [wp angelfury] I will not SHUT UP , GIVE UP and I WONT go away!!.

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Vernal man spying on ex-girlfriend shoots officer in the leg, police say

http://www.sltrib.com/ci_13690200?source=most_viewedCrime » The bullet passed through his thigh with little damage.

By Lindsay Whitehurst

The Salt Lake Tribune

Updated: 11/01/2009 10:39:23 PM MST

Jesus Martinez

A Vernal man shot a police officer in the leg, then attacked an ex-girlfriend's boyfriend in his home Saturday, police said.

Officer Dustin Gray pulled up to the house in the 100 block of Dale Avenue after a neighbor reported seeing a suspicious man hiding in the bushes and peering in the windows about 10:20 p.m., said Vernal acting Police Chief Dylan Rooks.

The man was 24-year-old Jesus Martinez, who has a history of domestic abuse against his ex-girlfriend, who was in the house with her boyfriend.

Gray was about 12 feet away when Martinez popped out from behind a Dodge Durango. Without saying a word, he fired four shots at Gray with a .40-caliber semi-automatic handgun, Rooks said. One round hit the officer in the upper left leg.

Martinez turned around and fired several more shots into the basement window of the split-level house. The 28-year-old boyfriend heard the gunfire and glass breaking and walked into the living room to investigate. He thought the sound might have been light bulbs breaking outside, Rooks said.

As the boyfriend walked into the room, Martinez crashed through the broken window and attacked him.

"He points the gun to his head and tells him he's going to kill him," Rooks said.

Meanwhile, Gray radioed for help as another officer arrived. The officer pulled Gray to safety behind his police car and they waited for backup. When more officers arrived, one or two stayed with Gray as he was

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loaded into the ambulance while several others entered the house.

The officers found Martinez and the boyfriend "engaged in a very violent struggle with each other," Rooks said.

The 22-year-old girlfriend was upstairs and heard the fight. She gathered her three children, took them to the master bedroom, locked the door and put the children under the bed. The woman has a protective order against Martinez.

Once the men were separated, they were taken to Ashley Regional Medical Center with injuries from the fight. They were treated and released. Martinez was arrested and taken to the Uintah County jail.

After his arrest, Martinez "asked if the officer was going to be all right or if he was going to die," Rooks said.

The gunshot went through Gray's thigh and exited without hitting any major arteries or bones, Rooks said. An ambulance took Gray to Ashley Regional, where he was recovering from his injuries Sunday. He was expected to be released from the hospital about 4 p.m. He has been a Vernal police officer for two years.

"He was relatively lucky," Rooks said. "We're thankful."

Martinez has been arrested before, once for domestic violence against the same woman when she was his girlfriend, Rooks said.

Last June, Martinez pleaded guilty to domestic violence in the presence of a child, failure to stop at the command of law enforcement, and assault, state court records show. He served six days in jail and was put on probation for three years.

Rooks said the incident is an example of how a routine police call can suddenly turn serious.

"We get those calls two or three times a night," he said. "We're really happy with the way our officers responded."

lwhitehurst@sltrib.com