SWINE FLU

by mamaliberty

The last few weeks people in North America and beyond have been in an uproar over a killer known as “Swine Flu” or the more politically correct H1N1that has claimed ONE life in United States but there lurks a more prolific killer to women and children.

While this “potential” pandemic is serious to cause an uproar there is a more sinister killer among us and it’s not a virus so much as it IS a pig.

I submit the following incomplete list of recent murder victims which include many women, children, innocent bystanders and police officers, all killed by violent men.

March 10 – Michael McLendon, 28, killed ten people, including his mother, grandmother, aunt and uncle, and the wife and child of a local sheriff’s deputy in rural Alabama.  He then killed himself.  The worst mass killing in the history of Alabama killed: Virginia White, 74; James White, 55; Tracy Wise, 34; Dean Wise, 15; James Starling, 34; Lisa McClendon, Michael’s mom; Bruce Maloy, 51; Andrea Myers, 31; and Corrine Gracy Myers, 18 months.

 

March 21 – Lovelle Mixon, a parolee with a history of violence against women, sexual assault, and other violent crimes shot and killed four heroic Oakland police officers – Sgt. Mark Dunakin, 40; Officer John Hege, 41, SWAT Sgt. Ervin Romans, 43; and SWAT Sgt. Daniel Sakai, 35 before he was shot and killed by police.

 

March 29 – Robert Stewart, 45, shot and killed eight people at Pinelake Health and Rehab Center in Robbins, North Carolina.  He came to the center seeking to kill his wife, Wanda Neal, 43, a nurse’s assistant.  She was working in the Alzheimers Unit when he entered the facility and survived after herding residents into the TV Room and locking the door.  The dead included: Tessie Garner, 88; Lillian Dunn, 89, Jessie Musser, 88; Bessie Hendrick, 78; John Goldston, 78; Margaret Johnson, 89; Louise Decker, 98; and Jerry Avent, 39.  Jerry was a newly hired nurse at the facility.  He was shot 27 times but continued protecting patients until the final shot.  Police estimated his efforts saved at least ten others patients and staff members.

 

March 30 – Devan Kalathat killed six people in a murder-suicide in Santa Clara, California including his children.  During his rampage he shot his wife, but she still clings to life in critical condition.  Police identified the victims as Kalathat’s children: 11-year-old Akhil Dev and 4-year-old Negha Dev; Kalathat’s brother-in-law Ashok Appu Poothemkandi, 35, Poothemkandi’ s wife, Suchitra Sivaraman, 25; and the Poothemkandis’ infant daughter, Ahana Ashok.

 

April 4 – Pittsburgh police officers Eric Kelly, Stephen Mayhle, and Paul Scuillo were shot and killed responding to a “domestic disturbance” call.  They were ambushed by Richard Poplawski when they arrived at the house.  Officer Eric Kelly was not on duty.  He was on his way home to his wife and three daughters when he heard the call on his radio and responded to support his fellow officers.April 5 – James Harrison killed his five children in Pierce County, WA while his wife was at work.  Police confirmed that the couple had a domestic violence incident earlier in the day and the wife had left.  The husband demanded that she return and while she was away he methodically shot Maxine, Samantha, Heather, Jamie, and James.  The first four children were shot in their beds.  The last child was shot as she was running toward the bathroom.

April 5 – Kirby Revelus, 23, killed his 17 year old sister, Samantha and his five year old sister, Bianca.  Police officers responding to a domestic violence incident shot and killed him as he was trying to kill his 9 year old sister Sarafina.

April 7 – Kevin Garner fled Greenville, Alabama late in the afternoon after setting fire to his wife’s home and car.  Hours later, police found his wife and daughter, and her sister and her sister’s son shot to death inside the burning home.  Garner later shot himself before being apprehended.

April 10 – Two students at Henry Ford Community College were found dead in a murder-suicide in the Fine Arts Building on campus in Dearborn, Michigan.  Police determined that Anthony Powell, 28, killed Asia McGowan, 20 with a shotgun and then turned the gun on himself.

April 17- 39-year-old Kelly Schmidt, the wife of Scott Schmidt a lieutenant with the Appleton Wisconsin Fire Department, was arrested following the shooting of his wife, Kelly. She was shot one or two times in the head and died from her injures around 3:30 p.m. Also shot was Kelly’s mother, Barbara Wing, she survives.

April 18 – Christopher Allan Wood, 34, an accountant for a railroad operator, killed his wife, Frances, and his three children in Middletown, Maryland before taking his own life with gunshot to the head.  Chandler was 5 years old, Gavin was 4, and his daughter, Fiona, was 2 years old when she was shot and stabbed by her Dad.

 

April 19 – William Parente, 59, killed his wife, Betty, 58, and daughters Catherine, 11, and Stephanie, 19 before killing himself in Garden City, New York. Each of the victims was killed by asphyxiation and blunt force trauma.

 

April 25 – University of Georgia professor George Zinkhans shot and killed his wife, Marie Bruce, and two of her friends from a local community theatre group in Bogart, Georgia.  Two others were seriously injured by bullet fragments.  Her two murdered colleagues were: Ben Teague, 63, and Tom Tanner, 40.  More than 200 police officers are currently searching for him the dense woods near Bogart, 60 miles east of Atlanta. Police believe Marie was preparing to get a restraining order, file for divorce, and leave him after a history of domestic violence.

 

April 30- 36-year-old Shane Kettner was arrested Thursday after he and an infant were found semi-conscious in a Nelsonville Wisconsin home, 2-year-old Griffin and 3-year-old Ashley Kettner found dead on the second floor. The Sheriff’s Department says authorities checked on the family at their home Wednesday night and didn’t notice anything unusual, before leaving, deputies looked inside the windows and saw an infant in a child swing and a cat walking around.

 

May 4-A domestic disturbance took an even more horrifying turn Sunday night after the Ennis TX Police Department reported a murder/suicide had taken place. They responded to the residence for the second time in a 12-hour time span, shots fired were heard inside the home and after forcing their way into the residence, police found the bodies of Sharon Lusk, 28, and Willie James Lusk, also 28.

 

May 4- A 13-year-old Lakeland Florida boy is the sole survivor of what authorities describe as an apparent murder-suicide. Investigators say Nathan Bellar ran through a garage to escape his family’s slaughter at the hands of his father, who then took his own life on their front lawn.

 

May 4- Lenoir NC police said they discovered a murder-suicide when they were called to an apartment early Sunday.Officers arrived shortly after 9 a.m. at the Meadowood Garden apartments after a neighbor found a handwritten note on the door of apartment No. 21 that said, “Call 911. Do not go inside.”Inside the apartment, officers found Robin Lovada Jarvis, 50, and Larry Eugene Jarvis, 53, dead of apparent gunshot wounds.

 

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Insanity? Nope. Family court in Kansas

Posted by Claudine Dombrowski

Imagine that your home was broken into, vandalized and burglarized one night. You were roughed up and tied up while he ransacked your home. Fortunately, he left you shaken and hurt, but not seriously injured such as to require hospitalization. You were successfully able to identify him and his vehicle as he sped away.
Upon your call to the police, the offender is apprehended with the goods in his possession and brought to court to stand trial for his crimes against you.

You arrive in court and the first thing the judge asks you is if you are willing to go to mediation with the burglar. When you refuse, the judge labels you ‘uncooperative’ and ‘hostile’ to the burglar’s continued relationship with you. Even though the burglar was caught red-handed with your goods, and you were an eye witness to the crime, the judge now decides that he can’t possibly decide the case without first appointing a social worker termed a “burglary evaluator”
to assess yours and the burglar’s relationship.

When the social worker/evaluator can not determine what is best for your relationship or your stolen goods, they ask the judge to have both you and the burglar psychologically evaluated, because you seem “anxious”, “angry” and “uncooperative” with the burglar. The court-appointed psychologist, who has no experience in being the victim of violent crime and has not studied the
effects of such trauma, also determines that you are uncooperative, hostile, anxious, and you
have a negative opinion of the burglar that can’t be healthy. After all, the burglar had nothing but good things to say about you, your home and your belongings during his evaluation.

The psychologist recommends that you be restricted from access to your belongings until you can accept the burglar’s rightful relationship to continued access to your home and personal effects. He further recommends you attend weekly conjoint therapy with the burglar to work on being more cooperative with him in the future.
All at your expense of course.

The judge decides to wait a year or so to see how you work through your relationship with the burglar before he can decide upon the burglary conviction. He chastises you that you had better really work at the relationship or he may just grant the burglar’s request to maintain sole ownership of your property. None of these “experts” can be sued civilly for their negligence and incompetence because they have judicial or quasi-judicial immunity.

Insanity? Nope. Family court in Kansas.

Domestic violence victims walk into family court to ask a judge to protect their children from a known abuser. Instead, they face the above-described nightmare that can span years and put them into financial ruin, mental and emotional exhaustion, not to mention directly back into the path of the abuser. Judges pressure them to mediate, assign a custody evaluator who pressures them to accept 50/50 joint physical and legal custody with theirs and their children’s abuser.

They and their children are put through psychological evaluations by persons with little to no training in domestic violence, and some judges force co-parenting therapy and reunification therapy upon mother and child with their perpetrators. If they can not fit into the mold of cooperative “co-parenting” and the children continue to be reluctant to visit with the man that abused them, they face losing custody to him.

We have spent millions of dollars printing brochures and making public service announcements to victims of domestic violence encouraging them to leave violent relationships and telling them of the harmful effects on their children.

But when they do get the courage to leave, the same system tells them they are wrong to try to protect their children once they have divorced their abuser, and that they should now fully and freely support unsupervised visitation with the same dangerous person. Contrary to popular belief, children of batterers can be at just as much risk psychologically, sexually, and even physically after the couple splits up as they were when the family was still together. In fact, many children experience the most damaging victimization from the abuser at this point.

Most people assume that a fit mother never loses custody. If only that were true. The American Judges Association reports that “Studies show that batterers have been able to convince authorities that the victim is unfit or undeserving of sole custody in approximately 70% of challenged cases.” Unfortunately, the state of Kansas’s current laws also says that none of these people can be held accountable, either.

And so we go on, handing down family violence from one generation to the
next…

 

KMFCJ-founded by Claudine Dombrowski,a Protective Parent and survivor of Domestic Violence and systemic abuse. The goals of KMFCJ is to publish informed news releases, links and commentaries relating to protective parents and their children who continue to be victimized by the abuser and or the court system.

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How Do These Corrupt Judges Get Away With It? New York Judge John Bivona Keeps Rolling Along…

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NEW UPDATE:  Thanks to our commenter…

Submitted on 2009/04/28 at 9:15pm

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I am interviewed on this video picketing. The girls were given to the father “temporarily” on 2/20. Hearing yesterday continues to give father t/c and the mother NO VISITATION/CONTACT. You cannot make this stuff up. Mother is an angel. Husband stated “will not leave her alone until she is living on the streets”. As soon as it is obvious that the kids are being used as pawns – case should be declared a mistrial. This is disgusting and we cannot stand for it. BRING THE GIRLS HOME!

Already punished by the State of New York for not being impartial in a case, Hon. John C. Bivona (Suffolk County, New York) keeps rolling along like justice means nothing.  See his punishment from 2003 here. Now he takes two girls from their mother in a “closed” court session and gag orders issued in a March, 2009 hearing!

The father only wanted the two girls, not the boys in the family (that really sounds scary)!   Oh, and by the way, the father is a wealthy attorney.   Two detectives came and picked up the two girls, aged 9 and 10, without the girls’ knowledge after the hearing.   Please keep them in your thoughts that they can keep themselves safe.

In the information from Bivona’s punishment, this is noted:

In the Matter of the Proceeding Pursuant to Section 44, subdivision 4, of the Judiciary Law in Relation to JOHN C. BIVONA, a Justice of the Supreme Court, 10th Judicial District, Suffolk County.

THE COMMISSION:

Henry T. Berger, Esq., Chair
Honorable Frances A. Ciardullo
Stephen R. Coffey, Esq.
Raoul Lionel Felder, Esq.
Lawrence S. Goldman, Esq.
Christina Hernandez, M.S.W.
Honorable Daniel F. Luciano
Honorable Karen K. Peters
Alan J. Pope, Esq.
Honorable Terry Jane Ruderman

It is time to get more than just lawyers and judges on these commissions.  There needs to be REAL PEOPLE, who know the difference between right and wrong.  While it was good that they punished Bivona, why did they turn Bivona loose to continue the reign of terror in his courtroom?  Why?  It is the fox guarding the henhouse…

From commenter: Sign the “tear down the wall” petition and join with popular4people to end the injustice here.

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If you are involved in a custody battle with your abuser, this article is a must-read.  I have included below only the topics and first paragraph of each, click on the topic to read the entire article.

 

UNDERSTANDING THE BATTERER IN CUSTODY AND VISITATION DISPUTES

by R. Lundy Bancroft c 1998

 

A sophisticated understanding of the mind of the abuser, his style as a parent, and of the tactics that he most commonly employs during separation and divorce, are essential to anyone making custody recommendations or working to design visitation plans that are safe for the children and their mother.

Contrary to popular belief, children of batterers can be at just as much risk psychologically, sexually, and even physically after the couple splits up as they were when the family was still together. In fact, many children experience the most damaging victimization from the abuser at this point.

A genuine batterer can be difficult to distinguish from one who is unfairly accused, and batterers who will be a grave risk to their children during unsupervised visitation can be hard to separate from those who can visit safely. The insights and expertise of those service providers who have extensive experience working directly with abusers needs to be drawn from, and the level of contribution from victims themselves to policy design also needs to be greatly increased.

Custody and visitation battles amidst allegations of domestic violence require policies and interveners (judges, mediators, and Guardians Ad Litem) based in the most detailed knowledge, experience, sensitivity, and integrity. The stakes for children are very high.

This article is drawn largely from the author’s ten years of experience working as a counselor and supervisor in programs for abusive men, involving contact with some 1500 abusers, and hundreds of their victims, over that period. During the first few years of this period I worked almost exclusively with voluntary clients, and during the latter period worked primarily with court-mandated ones.

The characteristics of the clients changed remarkably little during that shift. In the late 1980’s, professionals in batterer programs began paying particular attention to the behavior of clients with respect to probate processes, and we began asking victims more questions about the man’s conduct with respect to visitation and custody. Since leaving direct work with batterers, I have served with increasing frequency as a custody evaluator (both as Guardian ad Litem and as Care and Protection Investigator), and have worked closely with child protective services. I also have drawn from numerous published studies, several of which are listed in the back of this article. [I have chosen for reasons of ease to refer to the abuser as "he" and the victim as "she," but I am aware that there is a small percentage of cases of domestic violence to which this language does not apply.]

PROFILE OF THE BATTERER (view article)

Generalizations about batterers have to be made with caution. Batterers come from all socioeconomic backgrounds and levels of education. They have the full range of personality types, from mild and mousy to loud and aggressive. They are difficult to profile psychologically; they frequently fare well in psychological testing, often better than their victims do. People outside of a batterer’s immediate family do not generally perceive him as an abusive person, or even as an especially angry one.

They are as likely to be very popular as they are to be “losers,” and they may be visible in their communities for their  professional success and for their civic involvement. Most friends, family, and associates in a batterer’s life find it jarring when they hear what he has done, and may deny that he is capable of those acts.The partner and children of a batterer will, however, experience generalizable characteristics, though he may conceal these aspects of his attitude and behavior when other people are present:

BATTERERS’ STYLE IN MEDIATION OR CUSTODY EVALUATION (view article)

Batterers naturally strive to turn mediation and GAL processes to their advantage, through the use of various tactics. Perhaps the most common is to adopt the role of a hurt, sensitive man who doesn’t understand how things got so bad and just wants to work it all out “for the good of the children.” He may cry in front of the mediator or GAL and use language that demonstrates considerable insight into his own feelings. He is likely to be skilled at explaining how other people have turned the victim against him, and how she is denying him access to the children as a form of revenge, “even though she knows full well that I would never do anything to hurt them.” He commonly accuses her of having mental health problems, and may state that her family and friends agree with him. The two most common negative characterizations he will use are that she is hysterical and that she is promiscuous. The abuser tends to be comfortable lying, having years of practice, and so can sound believable when making baseless statements. The abuser benefits to the detriment of his children if the court representative fails to look closely at the evidence - or ignores it - because of his charm. He also benefits when professionals believe that they can “just tell” who is lying and who is telling the truth, and so fail to adequately investigate. Because of the effects of trauma, the victim of battering will often seem hostile, disjointed, and agitated, while the abuser appears friendly, articulate, and calm. Evaluators are thus tempted to conclude that the victim is the source of the problems in the relationship.

WHY CHILD ABUSE MAY BE REPORTED AT SEPARATION/DIVORCE FOR THE FIRST TIME (view article)

Allegations of child abuse that arise during custody and visitation conflicts are treated with similar skepticism by court personnel and service providers. A large-scale national study found that the rate of false child sexual abuse allegations does not increase at this time, contrary to popular belief (Thoennes and Tjaden). As with domestic violence allegations, there is no substitute for careful and unbiased examination of the evidence. Batterers who do abuse their children can be convincing at portraying themselves as victims of a deliberate strategy on the part of the victim in order to derail proper investigating.

There are two salient reasons why child abuse reports may first arise at separation or divorce. First, children may disclose abuse at this time that is longstanding. The awareness of the custody battle can make the children afraid of being placed in the abuser’s custody, or of being forced to spend increased time with him without the protective presence of the other parent. This fear can lead children to make the frightening leap involved in discussing the abuse. After separation, children may begin spending extended unsupervised time with the abuser for the first time ever, so that the abuse escalates or they fear that it will. Increased visitation may cause panic in a victim of child abuse; a case of mine illustrated this point, with a child disclosing a detailed history of sexual abuse immediately after her visitation with her father was increased from one night every other weekend to two. Finally, children are known to be more likely to disclose abuse in the midst of any disruption or major change in their lives. (See MacFarlane et. al. on the above points.)

THE CONNECTION BETWEEN BATTERING AND CHILD ABUSE (view article)

Batterers are several times as likely as non-batterers to abuse children, and this risk appears to increase rather than decrease when the couple separates. Multiple studies have shown that 50% to 70% of men who use violence against their intimate partners are physically abusive to their children as well. A batterer is seven times more likely than a non-batterer to frequently beat his children (Straus). A batterer is at least four times more likely than a non-batterer to be an incest perpetrator. (Herman 1991, McCLoskey et. al.) Psychological abuse to the children is almost always present where there is domestic violence; in fact, the abuse towards their primary caretaker is itself a form of emotional abuse of the children, as numerous studies now document. It is true that battered women are also more likely to abuse children than non-battered women are, but unlike with batterers, those levels decline rapidly once the relationship separates(Edleson and Schecter).

JANET JOHNSTON’S TYPOLOGY OF BATTERERS AND THE AFCC RISK ASSESSMENT:THE QUEST FOR SIMPLE SOLUTIONS (view article)

Efforts are underway nationally to ease the complexity of assessing risk to children from visitation with batterers by placing batterers into distinct types, based largely on the work of Janet Johnston. For example, a risk assessment distributed nationally by the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC) draws heavily from Johnston’s work. The types Johnston posits are as follows:

Type A: “Ongoing or Episodic Male Battering”

Type B: “Female-Initiated Violence”

Type C: “Male Controlled Interactive Violence”

Type D: “Separation and Postdivorce Violence”

Type E: “Psychotic and Paranoid Reactions”

ASSESSMENT OF RISK TO CHILDREN FROM VISITATION WITH A BATTERER (view article)

Assessing the safety of children with batterers during unsupervised visitation requires careful examination of all available evidence, with as few preconceptions as possible about the credibility of either party. Even a highly skilled service provider cannot “just tell” that an alleged abuser is telling the truth or is not dangerous, even after several hours of interviews and even with the assistance of psychological testing. These can be important sources of information, but careful assessment of the alleged victim’s version of events, comparison with outside sources (to assess credibility), examination of court records, and confrontation of the alleged abuser to assess his reactions are all essential to an evaluation.

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Assault month brings new information to light

by Lydia Weed

“Sexual assault scars the lives of millions in the United States. To increase awareness about this issue, prevent future crimes and aid victims, this month, we mark National Sexual Assault Awareness Month,” said President Obama.

Many Fort Hays State University students wonder how close this issue is to their campus. According to the Kansas Bureau of Investigation, in 2006, Kansas had 23,077 reported rapes, and of those rapes, 12,624 arrests were made. Ellis County had 136 reported rapes, 113 of which were reported in Hays.

One in every three women is raped, and only one in ten ever reports the assault. One in fifteen men is assaulted, and only one in thirty reports. Compounding these statistics is the fact most sexual assaults are against children, the most vulnerable victims. Of the children assaulted, only 15 percent will disclose, and 80 to 90 percent know their attacker. Approximately three to seven percent are false allegations, the same percentage as any other false felony accusation.

“I thought I knew him pretty well,” said Sarah Greene, whose name has been changed. During the night of her assault, Greene was under the influence of drugs and alcohol supplied by her rapist. After she passed out from the mixture, her attacker raped her.

“I have very little memory. I remember him asking which condom I liked, and I remember throwing up in the middle of the assault. I blacked out because of the alcohol or if my brain just doesn’t want to know, but I really have no other memory of the rape itself,” said Greene.

Greene was found by her mother and friend, still naked and passed out in the rapist’s bed. Later that morning at the Emergency Department, she received prophylactic medications in the hopes of preventing sexually transmitted diseases and an unplanned pregnancy. The staff set her up with counseling services as well.
Many blame the victim for putting themselves in precarious situations that somehow legitimizes their “culpability” in the assault.

“Blaming the victim is a logical and emotional reaction because you want to separate yourself from the victim. If you don’t dress, act or participate in the same activities as the victim did, in your mind that separates you from the victim, making you less likely to become a victim yourself,” said Kelly Center supervisor Carrie Nassif.

The most common rapists are called Power Reassurance Rapists. They are rarely violent and may prowl, are peeping Toms and make dirty phone calls. When this isn’t enough, they will graduate to sexual assault. These are the so-called “Gentleman Rapists.”

According to a booklet provided by the Kelly Center, “He seeks power through sex.”

In the rapist’s mind, the forced assault is somehow consensual. However, consent cannot be given when the person is under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol.

In the Kelly Center booklet, “For the most part he does not consider what he is doing to be rape. If you find yourself in a potentially dangerous situation with this personality type, try to be assertive of him. If you can make him understand what he is doing is a crime, he may back off and allow you a chance to escape.”

Most of the men and women assaulted do not report this kind of rape.

According to both the University Police and the Hays Police Department, the most common type of rapist in Hays is the Power Reassurance Rapist, more commonly known as the “Date Rapist.”

“There is no such thing as date rape. Rape is rape,” said University Police director Ed Howell.

The second most common, the Power Assertive Rapist, often a male, assaults to assert his masculinity, about which he has no doubts. He has a macho self-perception and believes real men force women and women want to be forced. He will use enough physical force, ripping or tearing clothing to accomplish the assault. This often is the spouse, date or acquaintance rapist who uses a con with a surprise approach.

“In most cases of acquaintance rape the victim is under the influence of alcohol,” said Howell.

The Anger Rapist is the third most common type and who society envisions. His aim is to hurt and debase his victim, using physical violence and profane language. The Kelly Center booklet claims, “This personality rapist type usually commits rape because he is angry with a woman in general. He may strike quickly and with a high level of violence.”

This type displays an explosive temper and no sense of humor. Often there is a history of domestic violence and child abuse. Alcohol and drug use prior to the assault by the rapist is common.

If a friend or family member has been assaulted, the Kelly Center advises to contact the police and offer him or her support and compassion. Rape is not about sex; rather, it is about power, anger and control over another.

Charges are not pressed against without the victim’s consent.

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(Randi James) http://www.randijames.com/2009/04/whos-gonna-murder-family.html

I'd say that the following article is overall decent, but I'd like to point out a few things. My commentary is in blue.
(emphasis mine)

Experts eye murder-suicide perpetrators' traits
BY CAROL POLSKY | carol.polsky@newsday.com

Vengeful ex-employees, abusive husbands or boyfriends angry over a separation, financially strapped and overwhelmed providers, depressed fathers, psychotic mothers: When do they cross a line, as only a very few do, and kill their families and themselves?
I want you to notice the adjectives describing fathers, and the adjective describing mothers. I'll wait while you re-read it...Matter of fact. I want you to comment on the article so I can see if you picked up on it.
Police in Baltimore County say the deaths of a Garden City family, discovered in a hotel room Monday, were a case of murder-suicide. But they have not released details about who they believe was the killer.
They release the details about everything else. What's the problem? I have noticed a trend in the past 7 days of NOT reporting the killer in the original news articles.

Psychologists, sociologists and criminologists can only provide general descriptions of personality traits that often emerge in cases of what is called familicide or family annihilation.
Understand that: General. These professionals cannot predict anything. They do what you and I can do, look at and gather information. You know who else can provide "general descriptions of personality traits"? Astrologists.
The Washington, D.C.- based Violence Policy Center reports that in cases of murder-suicide, 95 percent are committed by men.
Read: Not Too Responsible Fatherhood: Blaming, Shaming, and Gaming
Louis Schlesinger, forensic psychology professor at the John Jay College of Criminal Justice in New York City, said there were two different types of familicidal offenders.
Remember that this is not fact, but perhaps a damn good explanation. (Read Marcella's Stop It Before It Starts: Part 1 Domestic Violence)

One takes a proprietorial view of his wife, gets angry, and attacks her and everyone around her. The second type is "the despondent male," who feels he must kill his family and himself to spare them the humiliation or pain of what life will bring, Schlesinger said.
I want to know, are psychologists making these assessments after the women and children are already dead? Because it would help to know if a man had this view long before the murders. I think a good time would be...during family court. But you see the problem is, the men actually PASS the psych exams, and the women do not. (Read Custody Evaluations on RightsforMothers)
Why? Because psych tests, like many other things, are written with a certain group in mind, therefore automatically biased against anyone who isn't in the "in" group. Understand it akin to standardized testing and IQ testing on people of color.
"It's not rational, it's not reasonable," he said. "If he tries to kill himself and survives, he views the [slain] family with sympathy. . . . He feels tremendous regret."

What does he regret though? Killing? Failing? Or the repercussions? There is a big fucking difference.

Some experts say they foresee an increase in such cases in financially stressful times, although studies show suicides generally decrease in such circumstances.
So, when people are stressed out, they are more prone to take out other people? And when they are not financially strapped, they mostly just kill themselves? Hmmm.
But Jack Levin, a sociologist and criminologist at Northeastern University in Boston, said there is almost always a "catastrophic loss that precedes a family annihilation."
Triggers can be a loss of a job, money, a relationship or a loved one. Often, he said, there is a feeling of isolation.

If these murderous men feel isolated, is the solution to reward them with access to their former spouses and children? To keep the marriage together? So, let me get this: Marriage initiatives and shared parenting presumptions were created to benefit men? (To keep them from "suiciding" as they would say in Australia) Oh, yeah, duh!!

"Most family annihilators, and typically it's the husband and father, have been frustrated and depressed over a long period of time," he said. "But they, unlike other depressed individuals, blame everybody else for their miseries.''
Dingdingding, key words in red. But I'm not understanding. I thought depressed persons blamed themselves. Period. So how can family annihilators/murderous husbands and fathers be depressed and yet they are blaming everyone else? Wouldn't that NOT fit into the depression category? Maybe more like psychopaths or something else?

From: Australian Family australianfamilymovement@yahoo.com.au
To: fathers4equality@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Saturday, 27 December, 2008 6:16:28 PM
Subject: [fathers4equality] Bruce Pardo, hero

Here's a toast to Bruce Pardo. He was a man.
Many will speak badly of him.
A few will say that he was a victim.
All will say that it was an unfortunate situation.
But he was obviously a man who would not submit to injustice.
His actions bespeak a man who thought about his actions, who had things well planned including a "plan B" which eventuated with his suicide.
Bruce Pardo, you were a Man.
I salute you and raise my glass at your courage and honesty.
Hail, your Spirit, Bruce. May it energize others in your situation.
Goodbye, brother.

Again, why aren't psychologists catching these things BEFORE the murders?
Or, he said, in cases when the man may be described as a dedicated husband and devoted father, the motive may be "a perverted sense of altruism that they'd be better off dead than live in this miserable existence."
Well, he should have asked them first, like in the case of the Amador family in Miami. One of the slain daughters had told a friend that her father had been sexually abusing her for years. When Mr. Amador murdered the family, the community talked about what a great man he was. So, are we saying that Mr. Amador thought his family would be better off dead? Because it seemed that they would have been better off without him.
In general, he said, most familicides are suicidal rampages, "but first the killer will take care of his loved ones."
If they are going to go on these rampages, they should reverse that order. Things would proceed much more smoothly.
If the person is religious, "He may feel he can reunite with loved ones in the hereafter, or wants to spare his loved ones the humiliation of his suicide."
Right. Maybe he should have asked God first.
4 dead in Fla. family slaying; teen son escapes

Divorce filing and arrest come before Dade City couple's murder-suicide

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1 advocates for peace:

DenomShi May 4, 2009 5:07:00 PM

You have done a wonderful job with breaking out this article and all of your comments are spot on!
I can only hope that others will read this and actually begin to SEE what is going on right before our very eyes.
Thank you for this!

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